50 reasons Why I am a feminist – Video and my commentary on it.

This self entitled brat is exactly the type of air head that is falling for the feminist gender studies indoctrination.  Listen to the video and below is my commentary to her talking points.

1 in 4 are assaulted? If you are talking about rape it’s actually 1 in 1300. Catcalls and calling you pretty is only harassment because you are not receptive to it at that time, but at other times you crave it when you act all slutty at the campus bar or a frat party. Your friends called you a slut because you had consensual sex with a guy and then regretted it. That isn’t sexual assault that is just regretting doing it.

Consent? They laugh because the feminists idea of consent means a feminist can say yes to sex with a man and then the next day regret it, go to her friends and they laugh and call her slut and so she decides to get vengeance and calls the police adn cries rape but expects to be believed 100% without any proof of rape by the police, but when she isn’t is consoled by her fellow feminazis and blames all men and it comes out the woman was lying but doesn’t get charged for reporting a false crime, and doesn’t apologize for ruining a man’s life for the rape accusation.

And men are sexualized in selling everything from pepsi, soap, shampoo, jeans and everything else under the sun. What’s your point princess?

Your boobs don’t shock and terrify people. Just in some places it shocks people to see a bare breast in public. It is something you don’t see everyday. Maybe if more women marched around shirtless it wouldn’t be a problem.

Pressure to value your appearance? The majority of people couldn’t give a flying fuck how you dress or look. In fact the majority of advertising on beauty products and clothes for women are from companies that are run by and for women. So if your feeling the pressure to look good, then that’s on you. You can walk around in jogging pants and a jersey and I think you would be still considered to be attractive. I really think that is over dramatic.

The united states is the only place I’ve seen plastic surgery taken to extremes. If you want to ruin your body with crappy plastic surgery that is your choice. Again. Not seeing why you feel pressured by this at all.

Male Genital Mutilation. – While I applaud your raising the issue, your the first self proclaimed feminist who actually didn’t laugh at the idea that this is an issue. Bravo.
700 Bills to regulate a woman’s body? I think you mean to protect a woman’s body and reproductive rights etc etc.

The political body numbers are actually pretty high for women in political power. Most women though don’t get into politics because it’s hard to get to congress and takes al ot of money and fundraising to do. Most women just don’t get that far into politics because that takes decades to get to congress.

Actually men occupy the top rungs of the industries women don’t choose to get into. In female dominated fields, the top run is almost always held by women.

1 in four stem jobs. Yup. That is because women don’t choose those fields. In fact, there are so many incentives for women to get into those fields many women get a free pass out of university just so those fields can fill those quotas for equality but women won’t go into those fields by choice because most would rather choose easier jobs or get useless degrees in gender studies.
Sigh…. the pay gap myth. 77 cents for every man dollar is a myth. Or rather an oversimplification. 77% is correct for every single industry, business, put together in a very high level overview. But when you look at the details of the stats and each industry you find out that the gap is there because women are choosing to go into fields that have less pay for more flexibility in choices rather than jobs that men tend to choose that are higher pay for more risk of injury or time away from family. You can’t get those high paying jobs unless you sacrifice and many women don’t want that as stats have shown.

450,000 less than a man in the same position. Yes, again that is because if you choose a field like the tech industry, and then decide to leave for a few years to raise children and then come back, you basically have to start from the bottom again. Most of the industries that women are choosing are like this and this is why there is that wage difference. Women are choosing to do this.

Your less qualified coworker was making twice as much as you? Could he have been working full time and had been there a few years longer than you? Or in a different position than you? Or in a different department than you? What made him less qualified? How are you able to judge if he is less qualified than you? OH wait… he automatically is because he has a penis and therefor has privilege.
The media doesn’t tell you that women are your competition. You ladies do that to yourselves all the time. Women often tell me they enjoy tearing other women down. So that’s all on your gender and not because of media.

Gender roles is another myth. Pink actually used to be the color for boys and blue was the color for girls then it switched at some point in the last 100 years. Toys are based on market research and kids do know what they want to play with. They have no problem telling you which toy they want to play with despite the pretty pink box or blue box or the pictures on the packaging.
I don’t know who told you that women are weak and irrational .. (except for feminists) but every woman that I ever known personally are considered smart, strong, and independent who don’t need men to be in their lives but choose to have them. It’s only the self described feminists that seem to be irrational, emotional and stupid, who claim they don’t need men, and can do anything a man can do but then blame men for all their problems instead of actually solving them without the help of men.

So your a feminist because someone called your friend in tenth grade a pussy and it tore him up for weeks? Sigh.. If that “tore him up for weeks” then he had other issues and it wasn’t because he was called a pussy.

Worst insult to be compared to a woman. That is called trash talk. It happens everywhere from everyone including from your feminist compatriots. They bash men all the time and call men pussies so really, I have to ask. Was it you who called your friend a pussy and got a kick from it?
Boys aren’t shamed for being emotionally open. We just don’t make a public spectacle of doing it at every single opportunity. Men and boys cry about things all the time. We just do it for more important reasons than because a friend was called a pussy in grade 10.

No one in this day and age says womanhood is weak. Only the feminists do.

So pushing babies out of a vagina is cause to go to feminism?

You became a feminist because not once did your father cook dinner, clean the house and when you suggested to your father he help, you were told you are out of your damn mind. Most likely because HE PUT A FUCKING ROOF OVER YOUR HEAD, PAID FOR THE CLOTHES ON YOUR BACK, PAID FOR THE FUCKING FOOD YOU STUFF YOUR FACE WITH, PAID FOR YOUR EXPENSIVE CELL PHONE, PAID THE BILLS AND BECAUSE HE WAS BUSY PAYING FOR ALL THAT MOST LIKELY HAD TO WORK 10-12 HOURS A DAY> SO ON THE PRECIOUS TIME HE WASN’T WORKING AND SPENDING HIS MONEY ON YOU, YOU HAD THE AUDACITY TO ASK HIM TO HELP? YOU ARE A SELF ENTITLED UNGRATEFUL BRAT.
Are you taking crazy pills. YES YOU ARE FUCKING ON DRUGS YOU STUPID GIRL.
Genders; YES there are two genders. Male and Female. Transsexual is a label to describe someone who is going from one gender to the other through medical means. That is not an alternate gender. Neither is CIS. It is a made up gender by feminist professors to try to justify gender studies. So they made up a bunch of fake genders to fool people. As well as confuse new generations into thinking they are CIS or other fake genders. Genders is based on your genitalia, not on what the doctor announces you are. If you have a penis your male, if you have a vagina, you are female.

LGBT folks of all races and color are on screen. Margaret Cho, Ellen, Neil Patrick Harris. and many others. There are even shows that feature all gay cast like Queer as folk and some have mixed race families like modern family. If you got out of gender studies once in awhile and turned on a tv you would see this. There was even a black football player who got accepted into the NFL and kissed his partner on the news live.
So you becoming a feminist helps the women in Yeomen how?

No one believes you deserve to be raped. There is no rape culture and there are no groups of scary men discussing how to rape women who dress in scanty clothes.
In Saudi Arabia, women can drive and they don’t have voting there. Under Sharia law, a woman can own property and when she marries, that property is still owned by her, but her husband has to take on the financial burden of paying for that property like it’s taxes. As well if the woman wants to do something like get a job, the money she earns is all hers. However the man has to pay for everything for her, her clothes, transportation, any childcare expenses, and as well the woman will own half the rights to any property they accumulate in the marriage. So that is why the woman has to ask the her husband’s permission. He has a financial stake in whatever that wife does and that is only fair that he can say no.
Women’s bodies are used in a battle ground of war by men? Are you fucking kidding me? Your ignoring the fact that men are DYING in those wars. MORE MEN are dying a hundred fold than the women that are raped. This proved how much you don’t care for equality. Men come home from those wars without body parts, scarring, wounds, Mental health issues and many don’t have support and because of their injuries, they are unable to go into careers and earn a living and end up poor or on the streets homeless.

You care more for women in other countries than you do soldiers fighting in wars and coming home with little or no support from the country they fight for. YOU TWAT!

Yes pull out the period card. Your gender is the only one who gets to use the “hormone: card to get out of jail for crimes like assault, murder etc. YOU TWAT.

No I wouldn’t take them any more seriously out of a male feminist mouth than a female feminist or a cis feminist or a whatever feminist. YOUR ALL MORONS.

You have proven over and over in your rant you are not for gender equality. Just to raise yourself up above men. YOU FUCKING TOLD YOUR FATHER TO HELP WITH THE HOUSE HOLD CHORES> THAT IS NOT GENDER EQUALITY> GET A FUCKING JOB AND HELP PAY THE BILLS THEN YOU WOULD HAVE THE RIGHT TO ASK YOUR FATHER TO HELP.

Your eyes are open but they are not seeing squat. And your mind is about as active as the kid on the back of the school bus who wore the bike helmet and licked the fucking windows. That’s about how much your brain works.

Yeah we are there. You feminists can’t see it.

FUCKING FEMINIST STUPIDITY.

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I thought I heard it all… until today.

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Today I heard a term I first heard on South Park and never heard about again.  At the time, I had no clue what South Park was joking about and frankly, laughed along with the episode, (Cartman is fucking funny!)

Today,  I ran into it again.  It was on a youtube video from a self described CIS male feminist, about why he needs feminism.  He started his dialog with describing himself as a “Identifying as CIS with his assigned gender”.    This caused me to do a search online for the term and get more information.

Here is the Wikipedia entry on it.

Cisgender and cissexual (often abbreviated to simply cis) describe related types of gender identity where individuals’ experiences of their own gender match the sex they were assigned at birth.[1] Sociologists Kristen Schilt and Laurel Westbrook define cisgender as a label for “individuals who have a match between the gender they were assigned at birth, their bodies, and their personal identity” as a complement to transgender.[2]

Please read that entry carefully.   If you are scratching your head, it is the same reaction I had.  There are a few issues with this.

Gender isn’t “assigned at birth”.   You are either male or female.   That is the way it is.  You can’t magically assign a baby with a penis as female or vice versa,   So by identifying your self as CIS your basically saying without saying it your male or female.  In the case of the experience with the video, he was male.

He continued by stating he needed feminism because while being CIS he didn’t fit the “Idea” of male by others and would experience shaming etc from other males or females.    So his reasoning was to join a group of females and males who are for the oppression of men.      He then continues and talks about how he has trouble finding potential dating partners and it is obvious he is leaving out pronouns in his descriptions.   For example he will not say He or She.  It’s always partner.   So for me being a gay man, and having seen this over and over and over and over and over for almost thirty years, I pegged him as being gay and in the closet.  Which if he was in the states, I can understand why depending on which state he is in.

CIS?  I’m so floored by the idiocy of the feminists and yet am in awe.  Not because they are great.  I’ve made it clear in previous pages that I hate feminism and all it stands for, but for the way it has interwoven so much into society that is can turn anyone from identifying from their gender to some fake one.

According to feminist theories from what I am reading they basically want to eliminate any type of gender identity.  That’s right.  They want eliminate the idea I’m a man because I have a beard, or that we identify a woman because she doesn’t have a beard etc.

I am honestly thinking I have to hit my head on a brick wall to make myself stupid enough to believe this garbage.  And yet we have millions of young girls going to university, spending billions of dollars in tuition to learn this in gender studies.

And these young feminists wonder why their Bachelor in Gender Studies has no value in the world?

Men’s Rights Movement vs Feminism – Which one is Toxic?

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I’m going to start out by saying up until recently I knew very little about feminists and their movement.  I was always taught that it was about equal rights for both women and men and so when I saw men who identified themselves, as feminists, I really didn’t notice any problem.     That being said, I’ve been finding myself lately watching videos on you tube, that started innocently enough, but delved deeper into feminism and I began to notice a pattern with both the Men’s Rights Activists and the Feminists.   So I decided to educate myself on both sides to find out what was happening.   What I found out shocked me and helped me realize I wasn’t alone.

I will start out with the Men’s Right’s Movement.    These are people who are trying to form associations and groups to bring attention to men’s issues,  just as feminism did for women back in the 1970s.   Some of the issues I can identify with, as I have experienced them before and some I had no clue as I never really considered or thought about to closely.   One of the ones that stuck out for me was the genital mutilation.  I myself I fully admit,  still have my foreskin.   However, being a gay man and before meeting my husband I have slept with other men who weren’t.  They all said the same thing when we discussed uncut vs cut.   They all wished they had their foreskin.   Even my husband says it to me at times and even contemplates getting surgery to get it back.     Not having our foreskin is  a big issue because it leaves scars and even insecurities for men all through their lives, and at the very least leaves them with this sense of regret and longing.

Some other issues that I had a vague idea about but didn’t give much thought was the statistics on the damage done to men by society.
90% of the homeless are men, and almost 100% have some mental disability that doesn’t allow them to be able to function or hold down jobs, and because there are almost zero support systems in place, (because men are supposed to buck up and be men) they end up on the street, sleeping on cardboard on open grates.
The rates of suicide with men are alarming as well.  There is a One in Six chance that a man will kill himself by the time he is Thirty years old.
Then the issue of the court system favoring women over men and men being forced to pay huge sums of money that drive men to suicide or leave the country or even being jailed.
Or the right to choose parenthood.  Men don’t have that choice.

Domestic violence.  Half of all domestic violence against men is done by their wives and spouses.  (This is one feminists disagree with or completely ignore making excuses for the women).    The reason this should be a concern is men are automatically assumed to be the assaulter when the police show and will be charged if it perceived the women is in distress example being crying when the police show.   Even if the guy has been stabbed (there are videos on youtube by guys who got stabbed or worse), by the spouse, the man is still considered the one at fault and in many cases are jailed but are later released or not.

The list goes on and on.   I talked to my husband about these issues and he didn’t know either and was silent listening to me.  I still don’t know what was on his mind as he became really silent and then changed the subject.   The Men’s right movement is seeking to change this and fix the problems that have been overlooked for so long, and this stems from another movement that focused on women’s rights while claiming to be for equality.

That is the Feminist Movement.   Now, like I said I am for equality. I believe everyone should be treated equal and that is what I thought feminists were about.  Until I watched and listened to their theories and curriculum that is taught in college or university.   This movement has started so long ago that there are calling the current crop of college students who identify with this group as “Third Wave” feminists.

What really made me shake my head in complete and utter disgust was the blind stupidity with the majority as a whole.   While individually, many seem reasonable, as a group, they really make you wish their parents had used birth control or their mothers had aborted in the first trimester.  (YES I WENT THERE).

These women are definitely not for equality.  They believe the men (Patriarchy) is the reason why they have always suffered oppression.    Even today in 2015, they are still the victims of oppression and will spew this ideological puke, that sounds so convoluted, you need a flow chart to understand what they are talking about.

Let me explain.

Logically thinking people will think like this;   A to B to C to D = E.      Normal people think in a logical sequence that helps you take proper steps A to achieve E.    This is how, normal sane brain function and critical thinking works.

What you get with feminists is :  A to D to L to N to B to F to 12 to ZZ to Xy = B but really means E.

Makes no sense and you need a flow chart.

The pattern I did notice was that every single idea of theirs left them with zero responsibility for their own actions.   Pretty much every idea had the blame placed solely on the shoulders of men.

Let’s take the rape theories.

1.  If a man and a woman meet in a bar, get drunk and go have sex, then the woman has been raped.   Yup that’s right.  She has been raped.  Why?  Because she was incapable to give consent because, she was drunk.

The reason that idea is absolutely garbage and should be rejected is because the drunk defense is not a defense.  If you get into a car drunk and hit someone, you can’t say “I’m not responsible because I was drunk”.  That defense hasn’t been accepted by courts for decades.   Yet if a woman is drunk she is not responsible and therefore has been raped?  Yet that guy she slept with who was equally drunk is responsible for rape?   This insane notion is harmful because it removes all responsibility of actions from the women and places it on the man.   Not only that but this idea is taken seriously by police and many men, end up in jail for rape, especially if they get a feminist judge.

2.  If a woman doesn’t verbally give consent but ever so slightly pulls away and the man continues and they have sex, then he just committed rape.   This will also land him in jail.    This one also removes all liability from a woman to actually verbally say NO.    The act of saying no was the ever so slight pulling away that you as a man are to magically pick up on.

3.  This one is my favorite as it shows even more how insane this movement is.   If a woman has consensual sex with you, and the next day or a few days later regrets it, that can be considered rape.  However, this one is manipulated.  If your a sane woman reading this and have gone through this scenario and recognize that yes sometimes you can regret this but it isn’t rape, think back to when you did this and talked to friends.   This one is common because feminists will convince you that you have been raped.   Even though you never considered that to begin with.  A women with strong belief system in place will see this and laugh and move on.   Some women will allow their friends to convince them and then off goes the man to jail.

As well we are expected 100% to believe the word of the woman when she claims rape.  She shouldn’t be expected to provide any evidence, and doesn’t need a rape kit done.    Instead her word  should be assumed as gospel, because after all, there is no women on the planet who has never lied or lied to police to get vengeance on a perceived wrong.  All women are again victims and men are scum.   They will even protest on masse at police departments or court houses when they perceive a woman who has claimed rape was found to have no evidence and the case was dropped.  Or found that they fabricated the story.  To feminists, that doesn’t matter and the woman should be believed and the man or men should have their lives ruined, because after all the woman imagined the man doing it so therefor it happened.

Those are just a few of their so called rape scenarios that they really do believe.   One video I watched , the feminists in the audience had question number 1 thrown at them and they unanimously agreed that it was rape.  The speaker, asked them on what earth is that rape when they both consent?   And when a student in the audience along with his “Women’s Studies” professor demanded to see proof that it wasn’t.  She easily responded back with ” It’s logic”.   The one male student the camera focused on looked like he was hit in the head with a bat, as I don’t believe he ever really thought about it but just repeated the same mantras.

Another theory they have is the wage gap.  I couldn’t tell you how wrong that theory and anyone with half a brain and google can find out again this is just not true.    The feminists twist things around here again and say they are the victims of male oppression and still claim it is true.   Even though statistics and studies show it isn’t.   Absolutely insanity.

Then the whole right to the body thing.  Now while I am understanding that view to a point.  I do believe men have rights here too.    A man should have a say in wether or not he can become a father and if the woman doesn’t want the child he should have a say on keeping that baby if he wants it.

Feminists don’t want men to have the choice   To them, the choice was made when they had sex with the woman.   Once you have sex with a feminist, that’s it, your fucked dude.    They will choose to have that child and can force you in law to pay for it.  And don’t think you get off of paying for the child if your not the father, because she can drag you into court and make you pay for it as well.  She usually does this by tricking you into marrying her before the baby is born.   If that baby is black and your both white.  That baby wasn’t yours but she will make you pay for it for the next 21 years.

If you challenge any of their ideas or notions in any organized fashion, they form protests and become violent and then cry they are the victims of oppression.

The following  woman features in many copies of the same video, who in one breath says she is for equal rights and then screams at the men who are trying to speak with her calmly, but she herself in a rage “SHUT THE FUCK UP” or belittles the men when they answer her question about the men’s issues.

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I admit, this woman in particular really made me angry, and I admit I wanted to slap her.  Do a search on the Men’s Right Movement and you will run across the video that many people have posted.   She comes off as a rabid bitch, who should be drugged and put into a padded cell for insane people.    I know what I just said will piss off feminists, but I don’t care.  So far the majority I’ve seen of them, have these insane ideas and will berate men for speaking up.  Those women don’t deserve any respect or me being polite to them.

Now I know I seem harsh but after watching these videos non stop for weeks and comparing the two groups, I can only say that the Men’s Right Movement has my vote.   They do criticize the feminists and their agenda but only because it claims to be for equality then slaps men down when they speak about the issues facing men and boys.    For this reason alone, the MRA will never find any common ground with feminism, because their agenda won’t allow them to admit they have done any harm to men, or are oppressing men.   To them, if you disagree with their agenda then your a misogynist, patriarcal bastard, who oppresses and rapes women.

The new thing the feminists seem to be doing lately as well is attack the gay men.  According to them, they claim we are not supporting them in their agenda.   I have to say as a gay man myself..  NO SHIT SHERLOCK!

So to all the bitchy feminists like the one above and that includes the one in the photo.   The following paragraph is just for you.

I’m a gay man. I supported women’s rights from the very beginning.  I was there in the 90s when lesbians wanted special places to meet and agreed with that.  I had many feminist lesbian friends when I was young.  I supported you, even the women who hated men and were open about it.   I am for and always have been for equality.   But you bitches have subverted the movement and made it toxic.  So much, men are killing themselves from sheer depression, desperation and financial stress so you can be pampered and not have any responsibility for your actions.  Your theories are insane and garbage and any idiot with half a brain can see through them.  You prey on the stupid and have insinuated yourself into our school systems, governments and have subverted things enough that you achieved your goals but are oppressing men and little boys.  You are the evil of the world and you need therapy.    If some of us gay men have not supported you, then BOO FUCKING WHO.  You don’t deserve any man’s support.  I hope all your husband’s and boyfriends smarten up and leave you and leave you with nothing so your forced to fend for yourself.  Your children should be taken away from you, so they don’t learn the hate you spew in the guise of equality.  Until you learn that this planet has two genders and one of them is not your fucking doormat then there cannot be equality.

(This rant was not for those feminists who are the ones who are sane.  That rant was for the delusional ones who spew hate at men).

Call me what you will but at this point I’ve seen the evidence, from the illegal behavior from feminists at protests to stop men’s rights groups to form, gamer-gate propaganda, to the ad campaigns “don’t be that guy”.   It’s all garbage nonsense attacking men and not acknowledging or admitting any responsibility in being part of a gender that consist of half the population that raised those so called rapists.

And now this one is to the men.   Word of advice.   When meeting a woman at a bar or anywhere really, find out right out the bat if they are a feminist if you can.  Ask them questions about what they think about some of the topics above.  If any of them think the men’s rights movement is garbage or agree with the feminists ideas, then run away fast.  Those women are toxic.

Feminist Myth’s – Check your male privilege at the door. The lies Feminists tell Society.

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I’ve been watching videos on you tube about men’s rights advocates and activists forming men’s support groups for men’s issues over the past few weeks.   After doing reading and investigating this I’ve come to realize that we have been lied to.

We have been lied to by the feminists for generations.   We have allowed the integration of feminist dogma to influence law and allowed them to teach new generations their ideals in schools.

I’m not against any ideas that are logical and make sense.    I’m really not, but I never really look closely at feminist logic or ideas that closely until recently.   After all, I grew up being told that women are strong and are equal to men and that rape is rape and should never be accepted.

Any logical, thinking human being can agree to the above paragraph.   It’s not until you delve into the myths deeper that you can see the flaws, and I do called a myths because it turns out, that all their assertions about men are completely false.

Let’s look at the rape statistic every feminist pulls out on universities and colleges for students.   The dogma we hear everywhere and I do mean everywhere.  In the news, print, radio, even tv shows, we hear that One in Four women will be raped in the course of their college career.    This is scary and instills fear into women, along with anger.   This statistic is completely false and should be looked at with reason.    By looking at the statistics from the places that have colleges or universities, the statistics actually show a different story.   Turns out the real figure is One in almost Thirteen Hundred.  (1 in 1300).  And depending on the area that ratio is smaller 1 in 5000.   That means rape is actually rare.   So the assertion of 1 in 4 or 5 is complete and utter nonsense.

So where did that stat come from?   It came from a badly written piece of drivel by a man hating feminist in the 70s who stated in her book that she wanted all but ten percent of men dead (10 percent for breeding stock).    In her book she stated that 1 in 4 men would rape a woman on a college campus.   No source for that stat was ever cited in that book and has been disproved by rational people over and over and over again.

Another assertion these feminists make is that women are the victims of abuse at the hands of men.   That men are violent and cause most of the violence in domestic partnerships.

I used to believe that one as well, until I looked at numbers and dug deeper.    The ratio of domestic violence is about 50/50.  Men are abused by women just as much as women are.   There is a skewed outlook here on this and women use this to their advantage that many feminists will claim they don’t.

If a man beats a woman, he is automatically thrown in cuffs and taken to jail.  The woman will get support via many publicly funded means.   Support groups, mental health professionals, and even battered women’s shelters.

If a woman beats a man, he is thrown in cuffs and taken to jail, and has to prove he is not at fault.    Usually, the woman is in tears when the police arrive and are trained to automatically assume the man is guilty.    In the rare cases where the woman is arrested, she is more likely to either be put in the drunk tank for the night and let go in the morning with no charges or if charges are laid, gets an extremely light sentence like probation.

I experienced this years ago before I became a legal adult.   So fortunately I was protected by my youth and the fact the woman in question’s testimony was an outright lie.

Here is what happened.   I had asked to borrow money because I need to pay someone back and I hadn’t been paid at my new job.  So, when I asked my “friend’ she went into a rage.  And I mean, she was nice as pie one second and then red faced and screaming at me the next.   I tried to get away from this after taking her rage calmly for 10 minutes or so.   I walked away.  Unfortunately, we lived in an apartment complex (her being in another unit on a different floor) and when I went to the elevator she followed.   All the while screaming and yelling at the top of her lungs.    Berating me, calling me derogatory names and spitting.     Then, because i didn’t react to her behavior, she hit me in the face.     Now I have been taught not to hit women, but something triggered and I slapped her back.  Open handed, and not as hard as she hit me.  It was enough that it snapped her out of her rage and she stopped and went back to her unit.

Now many “Feminists” would look at that and say I was in the wrong that I shouldn’t have hit her etc etc.    That “snap” in me was my instinct for self preservation, and I had felt trapped by her and when she attacked, I instinctively slapped back in defense.   It stopped the attack and I managed to get away.

Feminism would have you believe that I was the aggressor in that situation.   That she was defending herself with the first slap in preparation of being attacked by me a man.   So in their logic, I’m at fault and the woman is the victim and shouldn’t have any responsibility or blame.

The absurdly in that feminist logic defies laughter.  It is so harmful, but it permeates society so ingrained that people don’t even see the illogic to it.

To make matters worse in that situation, after she left and I got away from her rage, she called the police.   She told them, that I had come to her for money (True) and that when she refused to give it to me (Lie), that I had beat her closed fisted.(Lie)  She said in her police statement that she dropped to the ground to protect herself from my fists beating her (Lie) and that I continued to beat her for a few minutes (lie) and then fled the scene.   Leaving her to call the police.

The absurdity in her statement is apparent when compared with my version of the story.  However, if you take the two accounts and compare, most would still take the woman’s side.  After all I’m a man.   However, there is a slight problem of evidence is which is why the charged were dismissed.    You see, at the time I was 5ft 10, and weighed approximately 175lbs.   She was approximately 5ft tall and weighed approximately 110lbs wet.

When the police came to the call they made note that she was not injured and didn’t have single mark on her and refused to go to the hospital and even told police that she had no injuries.   Yet in her statement, she claimed I had beat her to the ground.

Logic says that if I did that there would be injury to her in some way, even from dropping to the ground.  She would have had bruising and and marks from the so called beating.    There wasn’t and so when it came before a judge, the lawyers felt bad for me and didn’t want my life ruined so they “forgot” to tell her about the trial date and time and when she didn’t show my case was dismissed and the record was wiped clean (I was a minor at the time, she was an adult).

If it wasn’t for the compassion of the prosecution lawyer and mine at the time, I’m sure I would have been found guilty.  Simply because she called the police first and because the woman’s word is always favored before a man’s in court.    And technically under law at the time I did commit assault.  So the only way to get me out of that bind was for the legal teams on both sides to do something tricky and not tell her the real trial date and time.

That was my personal experience when I was 17 years old, and even though I experienced it firsthand the violence and lies of a feminist woman, I still believed the dogma and lies they perpetuated.

Another lie they represent is that women are strong but yet are all victims.   In truth this is an excuse to get their own way.  If they don’t you as a man are oppressing them and so they are the victim.

When it comes to earning money, they claim there is a wage gap.  This is a huge lie and one of the biggest.  In Ontario, the government spent a huge amount (approx a billion dollars), to create a measure to test business and industry to find the areas were women are paid less and to create laws that force employers to pay women the same as men.

What they found was that there was no wage gap.  One business, had a 3 cent wage gap.  That was all. That was the only gap they found and the employer corrected the gap and when the women were asked if they noticed a difference the answer was no.

The truth is different when you look at the stats.  Women are more inclined to choose different professions than men.  Those “male dominated” workplaces are a half truth.  There are fields that are dominated by women as well.
In the stats, it shows that the women will chose fields that give them flexibility in scheduling over money.   While men will choose fields that pay them more but are more dangerous and require long hours or being away from family.

These stats make more sense when you see the stats for men concerning work place injury etc.  When it comes to injuries at work, roughly only 2% are women and the rest are men.   Such a huge gap!   This matches with the stats.
Feminists will ignore this.

The whole idea we have to take women at their word is the core of the feminist dogma.  They expect and train us men to believe this from birth.   If you don’t believe this is true, then just use logic.

Women are the primary care givers of children.   Even in today’s society.    Women are the ones who in our formative years will teach us not to hit girls, to respect girls and even protect girls.    We grow up and because it was taught to us, and reinforced over and over, it becomes part of us.

We go into adult hood believing this with the idea that women are strong and independent, but conflicts with us because we have been also been taught they are victims and we should protect them.    Little girls are taught the same thing but are also taught it’s okay to hit boys simply because they see women and other little girls getting away without penalty when they hit a boy.
So really in truth, the feminists who decry the men’s issues groups as hate groups are just running on illogic and lies.  They have no concept of the harm they are doing to society and men have just as much right to form groups for support and discuss men’s issues as women do.

Some of the issues are
Abuse of men by their partners (men and women)

Issues regarding homelessness (majority of men comprise the homeless, and that inclused gay teens)

The high rate of suicide in men.

Legal issues facing men.

Oppression of men throughout society.

And if you scoff at the last one then you really don’t understand what men go through.  Men are definitely not privileged. We don’t get special laws to protect us, we don’t get special treatment because of our body parts.

Years ago I tried to get a loan or a grant through the government to start my own business.   At the time before  they cut all of them out there was all sorts for people to get.   However,  I noticed one thing.   As a male I was not eligible for any of them.

There was grants and loans for LGBT, People of different races, women,   However, if you were a white male you couldn’t get a grant or loan from the government to start your small business.  I could have gotten one under the LGBT grant but that required the business to benefit the gay community solely and be non profit so I wasn’t eligible for that really since I wanted to open a coffee shop.

So my “male” privilege didn’t help me there either.   All my life I’ve had to work hard for what I have.  No one gave it to me, I earned it.  I’m not privileged in any way by my gender.  The opposite is true.  I constantly hear everywhere that I am bad, and violent due to my gender and because of that I’m the cause of every problem in the world.   We as men of all races are rapists, murderers, thieves and deadbeats.     Any male that tells you they aren’t feeling oppressed with this kind of society is mentally flawed and indoctrinated into this feminist myth and lies.

I laugh when I see on these videos of conferences when males stand up and proudly announce that they are a feminist and are leaving their privilege at the door.   Inwardly I weep, because they are just so indoctrinated, that they proudly proclaim that they are less then equal to women and that women are more.    I watch their faces and listen to the tone of their voices and many actually sound scared and look around to make sure the nearest feminists smile and approves of their statement. When they do the male then relaxes and continues to speak.   You hear it with the statement of “I’m so and so and I’m a feminist, and I am checking my privilege”.   Or something like that.  Every video I watched of these kids has them justifying their right to speak with that sentence.     None of them just say I’m so and so and here is my question.  Nope.  They always have to apologize for being male.

And that is not equality.  That is oppression of men.

D&G advertisement – How they are promoting a myth of Rape Culture.

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I have been seeing outrage over this advertisement by D&G today.  Articles, arguments and controversy.  It all stemmed from a statement by the fashion duo that stated that IVF children are synthetic children and the only people that should have children are a man and woman.      So the outrage poured in, and the media was flooded with everyone putting their two cents in.  Then, today I saw outrage at the advertisement above and articles citing that this promotes rape.   So because of this statement from the douche duo of the fashion world, they and their brand are under a microscope, and every little thing wrong is pointed out, even perceived wrongs that don’t exist like the photo above.

Now I understand the topic of rape is an emotional one and, anyone who has suffered through rape will automatically go to dark places based on their experiences and assume the worst.  This is simply because their mind had a traumatic experience and their thought processes are on survival.   So as a result, the people who are overly sensitive to the topic will go to the worst scenario on seeing something like this.

I however, see some problems with this.   I don’t see this at all as promoting rape.  I see five bored gay male models and one equally bored woman.   A person who is being raped, is anything but bored looking but has a look of abject terror or fear.   I see none of this in the image.

Other people have stated that this promotes a “gang-bang” and this is supposed to be wrong.   I disagree.  If all participants are there of their on free will, and consent to the activities in the gang-bang then there is nothing wrong with it.   I got angry comments on that statement from many.

In the gay community did we not fight for years for our rights to be recognized to do as we wish in the bedroom with other adults as long as it was consensual?  I asked a friend who is also gay, and he decried this was morally wrong.  Gang-Bangs are wrong! He said in the comments on his post against this ad.   I asked him, how is it wrong if everyone is adults and consenting?    “It just is”.   And my favorite answer, “because the majority said so”.

I always love the argument that the majority has the moral right to decide what I can and cannot do in the bedroom.   Regardless of the fact it hurts no one, it’s still wrong.   And that was his stance.    Then in private, he told me that in school when he was learning advertising (He owns a media company), he stated that if even one person is offended the ad should be pulled.   I thought to myself, “You really believe companies that pay thousands upon thousands, even millions in advertisements will pull entire ads because one single person gets offended?”     That is a huge no.   It takes a huge public outcry for any company to even consider removing an advertisement or stopping an ad campaign.

And of course the myth came up over and over. I’ve discussed this myth at length before and will say it everytime.  There is no group of people, who actively say rape is good.  The men in general believe rape is wrong.   It’s only the severely screwed up people in the world who rape both men and women.

Next is another advertisement from the same fashion house.
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As you can see by the image, if I was to go directly to a deep dark place, I could assume this depicted men being tormented by women and abused verbally if not psychically.   I posted this image and asked where was the outrage when this was done?  Why are the feminists and their supporters angry about this?     This image is from their 2007 advertising campaign.

Here is another from that same campaign:

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Here we see the women again, not only forcing the men to strip, but doing so under a whipping. (Notice the riding crop).

Why are the women not angry at this?   Or why didn’t the world scream at this?   I can answer this.

We are men.  We are the evil of the world.  We may be loving husbands, fathers, caring and supportive, but because we have a penis, then we are bad people in general.  So it’s okay to beat us, humiliate us, accuse us of promoting rape, and sexualizing women.  Even if those women are doing it by consent and full agreement.    It doesn’t matter.    And if your a man and don’t support this myth blindly, then your labeled as a misogynist and are attacked.

I’m tired of being attacked all the time.  For asking questions to further my understanding of the viewpoints of others.  I’m tired of being attacked for sharing my viewpoint or even just saying “I just don’t see it”.   I’m tired of being attacked for no good reason other than the fact I have my sexual organs on the outside of my body.

Here is another image that didn’t conjure outrage from the feminists either:

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So here is an image that has five men.  One is naked on the floor with his eyes closed and the others are either dressing or undressing.   If you go to that bad dark place and assume the worst, you could say that the guy was drugged and is about to be raped.   Or you could assume like I do this is just an image of the after the fact of a gay gang-bang.   Which happens a lot in the gay community, so do orgies, and group sex of many types and fetishes.   Including men in suits like the one above.

So, assuming this is wrong.  Where was the outrage, from the gay community and the feminists?   There wasn’t, or at least if there was, it was less than a peep on the media scope.  After all, it’s just men in the image being sexualized and promoting the gang rape of men.

The hypocrites of the feminists movement are just that. They get angry at the treatment of women they think is unfair even it is by consent but cheer.  Or they get outraged when it’s pointed out that men are abused by both men and women just as much as women are. Like in this billboard advertisement:

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If your actually offended by the above billboard then quite possibly your one of those women who are abusing their spouse/partner.   There are many forms of abuse, and not all of them are sexual.   Many are harmful and don’t leave visible scars.

Emotional abuse.   Many women and men will use emotional attacks to degrade or humiliate you.    Using emotional manipulation to abuse.   Many, many women use this expertly.  I don’t care what gender you are both do this but women by nature have this down to an art form.

Verbal abuse.  Similar to emotional abuse Verbal is usually direct attacks on a person like name calling or degradation.    If a man does this he is attacked by others for doing it.  If a woman does it to a man, in public even, there is laughter at the “poor guys” suffering and women cheering on their gender on.

Violence.    Slapping, hitting, or any kind of physical attack can be considered this.    However, if a woman attacks a man, it’s considered okay in mainstream society.  After all a women can do no wrong.

Sexual abuse – This is actually quite common.  You think men are the only ones who sexually assault?  No.  I’ve been slapped on the ass, had by testicles cupped, slapped and even woke up one night to a woman fondling me against my consent.    If I was to report it, the police wouldn’t do anything.

Rape – Rape is defined as the act of penetration of the body.    This is not sexual it’s about control.  Men do it to men and now women are doing it to men.   Again, it goes unreported or treated like rape because simply, a man should be able to fight off their attacker since they are a man.

This is all garbage and the women and their supporters who think men are the root of all evil are just plain stupid.  Women are just as much to blame for things as men are.   So get off your high horses ladies and move into reality.

And before anyone assumes anything, just for disclosure.  I’ve been the target of two attempted rapes in my life, had been in abusive relationships with men and have been abused by women who I once called friends.   So I’m quite experienced personally with this topic.  And I choose not to be a victim or let this define my life.

Racism and Sexism – The attack on men.

This will anger many people.  This will cause shouts of outrage from others.    I frankly, don’t care.   I don’t care because if people don’t start standing up against injustice, then we will all be hurt by this.

I’m talking about attacks against white people, men in particular.

No, I am not a white supremacist, and no I don’t hate anyone.  I believe in equality and fair treatment for all.  Man or Woman of any race.

While I recognize that this is not true in many places in the world, in Canada, I believe we have come close to those ideals, but we are definitely not there yet.

In Canada we have adopted cultures and ideas from many parts of the world and made it ours, and part of our cultural identities.   This is a good thing.

In doing so we have become diverse and accepting of many people and accept many traditions without question.

There is a drawback.  We have also accepted hatred.  Hatred against white males.   If your a white male in this country you are attacked in the media constantly.   According to the feminists, we are the cause of all their problems including the non existent wage differences based on sex.  To them, if a male makes more money than them in the same field then it is sexism or gender discrimination.   There is no talk about the skill levels or negotiation ability of individuals.   Going to university for a particular job, applying and not getting paid the same amount as someone who has ten years experience in the position is enough to argue that the woman is being discriminated against based on their gender.

While many companies have wage ranges, you can negotiate your wage within that range, using your skills to determine your wage.  This is how many companies do this.   They do not, do this based on your gender.   If that was true then women in HR departments around the country would be screaming about the companies that do.  No, talk about how some don’t negotiate their wage or are bad at negotiation of said wage.

The same can be said about race.  If you have the skills for the job then you are generally considered for the position you are applying for.   Your skin tone is not a disadvantage in Canada.

In fact, if your of a race other than Caucasian, or are a woman, then you have an advantage in the marketplace.   There are laws in the place, that have been around for decades that require employers to hire people based on skill and they will get tax breaks if they hire people that the government considers minorities or women.  Bonus, if your a minority, and a women and have a handicap.

The government has loan and grant programs that they give to minorities and women every year.   Not to white men.

Years ago, I tried to start my own coffee company.  I had a solid business plan and all my planning was solid and everyone (suppliers, site location, contractors etc) were all set and ready for me to secure finances to start the business and get things going.   I was poor however, working minimum wage jobs and trying to secure a bank loan was impossible.  Turning to the government grants and loans I searched and searched, but couldn’t find any way to get a grant or loan because I didn’t meet any of their criteria except one.  Being gay.  That would have allowed me to secure a grant to start my own non profit organization that was solely for the purpose of the gay community.  This was  out, because a coffee shop is for profit and was for everyone, not just gay people.

In other words, I had no advantage being a white male.  If I had been a woman, or someone of another race, or even handicapped, I would have been given the money no questions.

Here it is the year 2015 and I am still hearing people attacking and blaming white men for all their problems in life.   The new thing is a bill board that was highlighting a problem that has been around for centuries but is never addressed.   Domestic violence against men and the fact there are no shelters to help men who are victims of domestic violence.

The outrage from the feminists could be heard around the globe.  Shouting their indignation that a man would have the audacity of claiming being a victim of domestic violence or abuse.
The bald fact is, it happens.  Just as much as it happens to women.   It isn’t a gender specific problem as the women would have you believe.  There are many many many, women who think it’s alright to degrade, or humiliate the man in their lives, even abuse them physically.   It happens in all types of relationships.   Gay, Straight, Lesbian, Transgender.   All of them.    Having a penis doesn’t exempt you from being victimized.

Men are raped as much as women are.  We men are quiet about it, because we are ridiculed and shamed by society and by women in general.  After all, men are supposed to be strong and able to defend themselves and protect their loved ones.

Another thing that still happens is other races blaming their problems on something that happened to their ancestors.  As if your great great great grandfather being  a slave to a white man, is the cause of you not going to university today.   This really has no bearing in reality, but if you question it, then your automatically dubbed a racist.

In reality, things are better now for everyone except white men.   We are still attacked, abused and accused of being racist simply for the color of our skin.

So think on this.  If your attacking someone based on their skin tone or gender, then who is really the racist or sexist ?  It isn’t me.  I live my life, treating others equally, based on their actions and not their skin tone or gender.

If your a woman, so what?  If can do something I need done, then your hired.  If your, a different race, so what?  If you have the skills I need to get the job done, then your hired.

If you don’t get the job, then chances are you are missing a skill that is required.  If your not being paid the same as the guy who has been at the job for twenty years, then chances are it is because you haven’t been with the company to earn those raises to get to those pay levels.

So to all the feminists and race warriors who think all the white men are evil.   Go look in the mirror.  Chances are the person in the mirror is the racist or biased against gender.  Not me.

The myth of “rape culture”

For the past couple of years, I have been hearing more and more the words “rape culture”.   I didn’t understand what it meant and to this day, I am not understanding the meaning.   Why?  The meaning is very generalized.  Here is an example, one of many I might add, that no one, and I mean no one has the same definitions.

From Wiki:  (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_culture)

Rape culture is a theoretical concept (a qualitative theory) in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality.

Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, or refusing to acknowledge the harm of some forms of sexual violence. The notion of rape culture has been used to describe and explain behavior within social groups, including prison rape, and in conflict areas where war rape is used as psychological warfare. Entire societies have been alleged to be rape cultures.

I checked many other groups and websites for their definitions, and they all had very broad descriptions of the meaning or some actually citing mundane activities as being part of this myth.

Some of these activities include, but are not limited to:

Asking a woman on a date.

Offering to buy a woman a drink.

Complimenting or commenting on their clothes, hair, looks.

On my social media profile friends list, I had a model on it, who’s specialty was nude modelling.   She proudly displayed each and every image that was taken of her on the social media site.  As a professional photographer, I saw the images for their artistic beauty and didn’t think about them.   This past couple of weeks, a guy on her friend’s list, had made a comment that was inappropriate and rude.   He was basically telling her (in a douche way) that he thought she was hot and wouldn’t mind hooking up with her.

She turned him down, in a very spectacular fashion, and then blocked him.    This I felt should have been the end of it.   Instead, she went on a rant, and drew many people in.  All agreeing with her and talking about rape culture and some like myself didn’t see it that way and said so, and in response they attacked those people and accused them of being part of the problem etc, etc etc.

At one point I had to make a comment, that was both a message to the model and as well to the people commenting.    I stated that while I didn’t feel the guy’s comment was appropriate, I didn’t think her 2 week rant was either.    This prompted attacks from others to me.   Yet when I asked straight forwards questions using logic and critical thinking, I would not get a response but attacks and name calling.

This is what I basically said:

To (Model Name), while I appreciate your work for it’s artistic value, I do find these kinds of rants to be counter-productive and a tad unprofessional.   Here is why, in this world you get many types of people, and some not all, are going to misstep in life.  They will say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing etc.   In this guy’s case, he was arrogant and said something that you weren’t open to.    You stated that just because your a nude model, doesn’t mean you want to sleep with every male out there, and I agree with you on that.   However, you didn’t just block him and ended it.  You went on a week long rant, and drew more and more people into this so horrible victimization of you.   There was no victimization, there was a guy who was a douche, who said something inappropriate.  Now the problem I am having and finding unprofessional is the fact you are omitting your part in this.   You chose to be a nude model.   That was your choice.  You chose to post those images on a social media site publicly.  That was also your choice.    Now while I understand that is not an invitation, there are some people out in the world who have no sense of decorum or decency.  This is not me saying I approve, this is just me stating a fact.   These people exist.  And when you post anything, they will come out and say something, that someone will find inappropriate.   When it comes to social media you can do several things, you can ignore it, delete it, or block the person.   You did this.  You blocked him.

You are not a victim.  You blocked him.

There was no rape.  He didn’t rape you.

There was no sexual assault.   He didn’t touch you.

(I didn’t say it in those words but that is what I was driving at).     Some got it.  One guy in particular attacked me in private messaging for a few days over this, and every-time time I asked him how my actions rape culture, all he could say was that I was blaming the victim.

“What victim?”, I asked.

“Your an idiot”, he said.

“How was she a victim?”, I asked.

“You just don’t understand the nuances.”. he said.

“I’m trying but you wont’ answer my questions so I can learn.” I said.

“You aren’t asking question, you are blaming her.”, he said again.

“I never blamed her, I agreed with her original actions to tell him off and block him.  You still haven’t answered my question.  Who is the victim?  She wasn’t raped, she wasn’t sexually assaulted. So who was victimized?”.

“I’m done, good-bye.”  He said.    This point he blocked me.

Even the people on this “rape culture” bandwagon can’t answer direct questions or even agree on what the myth is.   It’s grown in so many ways to the point of maniacal hysteria.

Let’s look at the Cosby situation.   

Here is a guy who over the years has developed a reputation of being the clean cut father figure.   However, we know he was an actor and a comedian.

Now, a woman who wrote a book over 20 years ago, comes forward to push her book by using a small part of the book were she insinuates that she was sexual assaulted by Cosby but has no actual proof.    She never reported it to police, instead she sued Cosby and it was settled out of court for some long forgotten sum of money.    Everyone seems to not look at that.   Now that he rehashed all this, her book sales are going through the roof.

Now bring in the other women.   All state this happened twenty some odd years ago.  None, and I mean none, can remember details and some even admit to being drunk or assume they were drugged. (Again, no proof).  You have all these women claiming sexual assault but none can provide accurate details or offer evidence that they ever met him in person.

In this media frenzy, we see groups gathering to protest his shows, trying to turn others against him.   The rich and famous of course are putting their two cents in.  Everyone is ignoring a few things.

A victim has two responsibilities.  (Ah yes I know, according to feminists, I am promoting rape culture with this statement, it doesn’t make it untrue though),

Those responsibilities are simple.   The first is the victim has to report the crime.  After all, how is the police supposed to investigate and charge someone with sexual assault or rape if they are not told about it?

The second responsibility is to seek help, to learn how to cope and move forward in their lives.   Support groups, mental health etc.

None, and I mean, none of these women ever did any of the first responsibility.  As for the second, no one is talking about it.

According to the feminists that are on the Myth bandwagon, we should accept a woman’s word as law when it comes to rape and sexual assault.  If they say a guy sexually assaulted them, then they did.    No evidence, no investigation needed.

That’s were I have a problem.    Many women already claim sexual assault and rape when none has occurred.  They do this to get revenge on someone.  Usually an ex-boyfriend or some guy they think has spurned them.   This has happened to a couple of friends in my past who got a knock on the door from police, and later was found innocent or the charges got dropped for lack of evidence or the evidence didn’t match the statements of the women etc.

To live in a free country means that you are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law, by way of facts backed by evidence.  (At least in a criminal court).   And as such, under those rules, Cosby is in fact innocent.   There was never any charges laid, nor any investigation launched.    And the time to press charges is long past their statute of limitation.  Even if there was no limitation, the women can’t even recall details or offer evidence as proof.   Yet we have people who jump on these bandwagons, supporting these accusations simply because the people citing them, simply because the persons making these claims have a vagina.

The Distinction:

Rape is the act of unwanted penetration

Sexual assault is an unwanted sexual touch.

According to the Myth of Rape culture the following is the support and promotion of it.

Asking a woman out on a date.

Asking a women if she wants to have sex.

Whistling at a women who you are attracted to.

Complimenting a woman in any way.

Talking about a woman, about her appearance,  attitudes, fashion choices, etc.
Let’s remove social media out of the picture.  Let’s put in the old fashioned method of meeting people.  The bar.

You walk up to a pretty woman in a bar, introduce yourself, compliment her smile, hair etc.  Things are going well and you get up and dance.  As your confidence builds you put your hand on her butt.   She grimaces for a second when you don’t aren’t looking at her but then smiles at you, and you bump and grind on the dance floor.   After a couple of hours and a few drinks later, you go back to her place or yours.  Have sex and the next day one of you does the walk of shame.

According to the myth rape culture occurred.   Can you spot it?   It was when she grimaced at the touch.  According to the myth, you just sexually assaulted her.   She has zero responsibility according to the myth to tell you she didn’t want her butt touched.

Another scenario in a bar:

You see a beautiful woman at the bar, you walk up and introduce yourself, you have a conversation, for about two hours and she then admits she isn’t interested in you.   You get upset, and tell her off and walk away.

According to the myth this is rape culture.   Men are not allowed to have feelings when being rejected by women.  According to the myth, a man just has to accept it and move on. No feelings required.

As men, we know, that anytime a woman says No.  It means no.   If a man gets upset and states it, then we are apparently promoting this myth.

This is why I call it a myth.  It is used for almost anything that a women disagrees with when it comes to social interactions with men, and there are no hints or even clear rules.  If a woman says no, then you can then be accused of this rape culture myth.   If the woman says yes, then everything is fine.