Example of blaming others for their own insecurities.

I recently read another article on wordpress by someone who decided to write about how people who have privelege feel oppressed when the people that they have been oppressing get equal treatment.

The article if you care to read can be found here:
When You’re Accustomed To Privilege, Equality Feels Like Oppression

The problem with ideology like this is the fact it is based on the idea that White man oppressor  Everyone else good victim.

The writer also runs under the feminist ideology.   This ideology is based on the idea that if you don’t have any self doubt or don’t think that the reason you didn’t get a job due to your skin color is a  privilege.    The writer, like most feminists believe white people, or rather white men, don’t have self doubt about getting jobs based on skin color, gender or  even sexual orientation.     Which of course is the problem, simply because we are all human beings and we all experience self doubt about things, especially when they are not going our way.

The writer makes bold statements that white people are angry at being called racist for saying racist things or having racist beliefs.     I myself have been accused of this by a few black people.   Why?  The reason I’m a so called racist by black people is purely retarded.   It’s because I don’t date black people.     That’s it.    That so far has been the only reason.   The writer of this article shows very clearly that they are racist in their thought processes.  They constantly insinuate racial issues, and stereotypes etc.

Now while I don’t deny racism does exist, I don’t see it as the problem it was back in the 50’s.     This person, like all who follow the feminist ideology of victim-hood believe they are victims somehow.  Even when they are not.

The idea that not having any doubts about a job interview is called confidence.  That isn’t a privilege.  That is actually a trait of someone who is mentally stable and balanced.   Even if you have doubt as to why you didn’t get the job, that just means you have doubt or self confidence issues.   Which is actually normal for most people.   Even I have experienced this, and I am a white guy.    White males do experience self doubt.   One job that I interviewed for a very long time ago, I didn’t get.  I was told by the HR team I was qualified, but they had given to a female.   That caused me to have self doubt, did I not get the job because of my gender?

The writer also states “I had had enough. I kept thinking “Why am I always moving out of this guy’s way?” Just about everyone else in the world seemed to agree that if two people were walking toward each other, both people would acquiesce a little…”  

I don’t know what part of the world the person is from but if two people are walking towards each other one person always moves out of the way.   Sometimes both.   Not always though.     Why he thinks that being nice and moving out of the other person’s way is a bad thing is  part of a larger issue.

I understand that being nice all the time has it’s limits and sometimes you just want to say fuck it and push your way through.  But that doesn’t mean you were privileged if someone else moves out of the way.  That just means you are a courteous person.  That is it.

Privilege boils down to this:

Privilege is something that can be given to you and can be taken away.  For example, a privilege , like your laptop you received from daddy at Christmas.   If you do something wrong daddy can take that laptop away from you as punishment.   Removing the privilege.
In other words, privilege comes from outside of yourself, is something that can be taken away by others. 

Thinking that you might have not gotten a job is not privilege in any way shape or form.  It just isn’t.   That is self confidence issues stemming from your own conscious or unconscious desires and not getting those desires fulfilled.

Moral is, if you have a doubt as to why something did not happen or why it happened, don’t go blaming others for your confidence issues.   Think to yourself what YOU could have done to have been offered the job or gotten the better shifts.   And maybe, just maybe the other person they hired or gave those shifts to were actually better than you.

After all, you can think you are better all you want, but the reality is the only person who is qualified to know is the owner or manager of the job.  They are the ones who hire you or do the scheduling and know exactly what kind of performance they need.    Not You.

Grow the fuck up people.

Calling all so called victims – Your actions have repercussions.

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One thing I hear about each day, is case after case of men who have been accused of rape or sexual assault in the papers.    I barely read those articles anymore, simply due to the fact, they are all the same.   The person accused had plied the poor victim with booze or drugs, or had met the poor victim at a party, got drunk together, and then the poor victim went home with the accused and then well, rape.

If you have been a victim of rape, it can be traumatic.   We all understand this.   I have had two attempts of rape happen to me.

Being a victim doesn’t mean you are blameless.   It means something bad has happened to you.   It doesn’t mean you are not responsible, nor does it mean you are one hundred percent blameless.

I’ll use the current Cosby case as an example.   Here is a woman who admitted under oath, that she went over to Cosby’s Hotel Room. of her own free will.   He offered her drinks and she accepted willingly.   He offered her drugs.   She took voluntarily.

I’m stopping there.

This is why I don’t think is much of a victim.  Well, sorry, rather she is a victim of her own actions.    She accepted the booze, and drugs of her own free will.  He didn’t force her to drink and do the drugs.  He didn’t hold a gun to her head.

Does this excuse Cosby if he did it?    No it doesn’t, but it does give a clear idea of what the situation was at that meeting.   And shows the woman was using poor judgement, and was at least a victim of her own stupidity.

Now I’ll give more detail to my two experiences.
I’ll start off by stating (I’ve mentioned in other blogs), that I’m gay.   In my younger days I used to go to bathhouses.   These were and are places were gay men of all ages go to have sex.   They had reached their height in the Nineties when gays were not yet accepted and there was still a danger to go to a gay bar.   It was also a great place for those who were still in the closet to go and have sex.

Now on this night, I had been out drinking at a dance club.  I had gone to the bathhouse (because I didn’t find anyone at the bar to go home with), and got a room.    In bathhouses when you rent a room it’s this tiny room with this cheaply made bed in it, with a vinyl covered mattress and thin cotton sheet.    Everyone who goes to a bathhouse, can either rent a locker or a room, and you are given a towel to wear and that’s it.    Basically your naked in a towel and wander around until you find someone you want to have sex with.    Or, like me you can rent a room and wait for the guy to come to you.     This doesn’t mean you can’t be choosy.   In fact many people who go to these places are.   We all have our types.

Anyway, I was laying on the bed with the towel barely covering me, when this really, really drunk guy showed up at my open door.  I got a bad feeling so I told him no thank you, but I wasn’t interested (this is the politest way there to let the person know to go away).    The guy however, had different ideas and came in and shut the door.   He proceeded to try to throw my legs above his shoulders and penetrate me.    I used both feet on his chest and threw him off, which he flew backwards into the wall.   That wasn’t enough and he again tried.     And again I threw him off.   Banging his head hard on the wall.   After a third try he left my room.

I didn’t call the police and even though I was a victim of an attempted rape, it was still my fault.   I knew this at the time and to this day I don’t blame that guy.   I put myself in that position and I knowingly ran that risk.   This is the risk you take when you go and and sexually tease strangers.  It’s not pretty but it’s true.  When you sexually tease people, you run the risk of pushing the wrong button on someone that will set them off.

The second time, that I consider attempted rape, was when I lived in BC.  I lived in this gay hotel and was in the lounge drinking and chatting with the cute bartender.   I was happily drinking and at the end of his shift he offered to take me to his room.    I drunkenly agreed.   We got up to his room and I promptly passed out.  With my jeans and underwear on.    The next thing I remember was waking up and I was naked with him inside me.  I had no recollection of even going up to his room or half the night at the bar.  So I freaked out.   Pushed him off em and accused him angrily of raping me.     He was horrified.   He apologized profusely and even sent me flowers the next day.    I realized after that he wasn’t at fault.  I was.  I had accepted his offer to go to his room and that was implied consent.   I was the one who made the mistake of 1.  Accepting free drinks from him, 2.  Going up to his room in that state.   So I in no way put the full blame on him.

Now fast forward to today and you get you Social Justice Warriors who think that a victim has zero responsibility in their actions and I am telling you that you are full of it.     You are not blameless.     What you wear is important, your actions before hand are important and how you interact with a person are important.    If you tease and tease someone, and then say “No no, no!” you are risking pushing that button on that person who is not mentally stable.     If you accept drinks from strange men and then go home with them, expect they want to have sexual intercourse with you.

If you accept drinks from strangers, if you go home with strangers, then you run the risk of rape or sexual assault.    There is a good chance you will be going home with someone decent.   Don’t get me wrong there, but if you’re going home with a new guy every week or every few days, then the odds are pretty good that you will end up being a statistic.

Now, here is the advice.     You are in control of your life.  That means you have to accept responsibility for your actions, and as such, take precautions.   Learn self-defense, carry pepper spray.   Make sure a friend knows where you are going etc.

This is not taking any responsibility of a crime off the criminal.  What this does is help stop you from becoming a victim and the crime from happening in the first place.

It’s like a car.  You don’t go parking your car in a crime riddled neighborhood and leave the doors wide open and the keys in the ignition.  If you did that and your car gets stolen, were you asking for it?   Yes.  The person who stole the car is still a criminal but you can bet your sweet ass you asked for it, by doing that.

Same with going home with strange men, teasing them, and then denying them sex.    Most men will put up with that and respect your choice, but go through enough men and the odds are you will find one who won’t respect your saying No No.

I really hope this gets passed on and the message gets through to at least some people who believe that no victim is at fault for their actions because as I have just shown, that isn’t correct.

Why the feminists can’t work with Men’s Rights Groups…. The real reasons….

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(The above image is courtesy of tumbler)  This representation of what feminists want is actually correct if you take into account that they want to kill any man who doesn’t identify themselves as feminists.   So after killing any man who doesn’t agree with feminism (including myself), that would be accurate because the only people left would be feminists and their male breeding stock.

There are many pro feminist articles out there bashing men’s rights advocacy groups like AVOICEFORMEN or Cafe,   They prattle their man hating heads about how “misogynistic” the men’s groups are, how they are hate groups but use quotes from satire, or snippets of  comments out of context as our dogma, and then they take the angry words of the men and use that as fuel to play the name game and blame men again *rolls eyes* for all their problems.

Yes that is right, the men who are standing up and calling feminist movement for what it is, *cough* bullshit *cough* are misogynistic bastards, who are all out to get women with our privilege in a patriarchal society of oppressed women being at the top of the oppression list.  *smacks forehead*

So without further adieu to why feminists or men’s rights advocates get along to find equality here is the list:

1.  Men’s rights advocates are trying to bring the issues facing men to the forefront to the public to garner support and draw attention to the issues including feeling oppressed.

Feminists want the men’s issues to be addressed under the banner of feminism but refuse to recognize they are the cause of the majority of the issues facing men and will try to shut down any men’s rights group who try to point this out.

2.  Men’s rights group are trying to correct misinformation by using facts about homelessness and demand more shelters and safe spaces for homeless men.

Feminists –  *cricket sounds*

3.  Men’s rights groups are trying to correct misinformation by using real statistical data instead of using misleading or made up data about domestic violence.  That of course being Men are victims of domestic violence just as much as women are.   The difference is men don’t have safe places to protect them from their violent wives/girlfriends.    Hence why there are more homeless men.   And, men are more likely to be ASSUMED they deserve that violence and therefor goes to jail on the word of the woman, even though she was the violent offender.

Feminists –  *crickets*

4.  Men’s groups are trying to address the rape culture myth with facts and real statistics.  Like the 1 in 4 myth on college campus and universities.   The statistics show the real number being 1 in 1300 which is a rare rape and that number is getting lower.

Feminists –  “No that is not true, women are raped more now than they were 50 years ago you misogynistic. patriarchal bastard man.   Stop being a rape apologist!”

5.  Men’s groups are trying to address the issue of rape happening by both sexes on both sides, that women are  not the only victims.   Men are vaginally raped by women or orally raped by women all the time.  Many will do it to acquire sperm to get pregnant so they can sue for child support and go on welfare who will pay them to sit at home and take care of the baby that they conceive from raping the man to steal his sperm, even after he has removed consent. (Yes this happens folks)

Feminists:  This doesn’t happen.    (or)  Rape is wrong. (Yet they do nothing when it happens and praise the woman if the men try to press charges).

6.  Men groups are trying to bring to light that women are more favored in the courts and because of the laws and as well the social perceptions, they get a free pass to many crimes, like rape, beating their husband, stabbing their spouse, or even outright murder of men or their children.    The law system learned a very long time ago that it is harder to gain a conviction on a women than it is a man so many crimes don’t even make it to a jury trial.  And those that do, the women who did the crime will get no sentence, or a lighter sentence than a man would.    All you have to do is look at how many prisons that hold men are and compare with the ones for women. Or speak to a judge or a prosecution lawyer.

7.  Men’s groups advocate and trying to bring to the light (it is starting) that genital mutilation of any kind is wrong.  Many don’t see the chopping of a baby boy’s penis is wrong.    Many are mutilated each day for the sole reason of the perceived image of cleanliness or religion, but is banned for women for decades now.  Many men carry the regret and depression for decades and all their lives for this mutilation.

Feminists –  To give them credit, they are starting to speak out against this practice.  Sort of.   They are posting memes online on social media accounts.    So I guess that is a good sign.  I still don’t see any protests or any vehement outrage about it though and many of the man loving femists will prefer a mutilated penis vs an intact one because they think the penis is dirty with the foreskin than without.

8.  Men’s rights groups are trying to create safe women free areas so we can speak openly and freely without reprisal from feminists groups and share our feelings and ideas.

Feminists –  Men have bathrooms and locker rooms.  (No we don’t because you want to be able to walk into those places too, but to be realistic, you may discuss your feelings and chat about issues with your fellow women in bathrooms and locker rooms but men see these places to change clothes and defecate/urinate and wash hands.  Not have discussions about our feelings, we prefer less smelly places to do that thanks).

9.   Men’s rights groups are trying to bring to light that women are more favored than men in divorce and child custody cases than men to the point where even when judges agree the mother is unfit and shouldn’t have custody of any children, they will still be awarded support payments and the children, simply because of her gender.

Feminists –  “HAHAHAHAHAHAHA!”

10.  Men have higher suicide rates than women.  The likeliness of a male to commit suicide starts before they hit puberty and will increase as they get older.  By the time they are thirty the chances are 1 out of 12 men will have tried to commit suicide.

Feminists –  Boo Hoo.  Shake it off and act like a man.  I’m the victim of male oppression!

So as you can see by the short list the reactions from feminists have been short and sweet.  Many that have husbands illicit sympathy and are in general polite but they all ignore men’s issues and always have. And in many cases the laws that they have gotten in place under the guise of “equality” have placed heavy influence on our society in the forms of funding to problems that are seen as women’s issues, and in the court systems, and even in jobs and universities.   When men, any men, (even feminist men) speak about this, the men get shouted down (even the feminist ones) and will be called a hate group against women that are claiming to be for equality for all.

Right?   The idea that men standing up for men’s issues and yes using vulgar, rude language to get attention, because frankly we are oppressed.  And we are pissed off.   Not at women but feminists, because all their affirmative action crap and wage gap crap, and those stupid campaigns that are pure man bashing over stupid trivial things like how wide should men be allowed to spread their legs on a subway, or women feeling bad about having to say they are sorry that many consider common sense courtesy.  Like entering a room unannounced, or interrupting a phone call to ask your boss something.

How about this feminists, how about you get the book that is taught in Gender Studies the “Scum Manifesto” banned from the country under the hate crime laws (because that is what it is), start fighting for real issues instead of Manspreading or that stupid Sarah Silverman superbowl ad apologizing because the stupid woman who gave birth in Sarah’s mansion, because she had a boy instead of a girl, or stop the “NOH8” advertisements that bash men opening by using little girls and boys telling grown adults to FUCK OFF.

When you stop bashing men and vilifying men to the point that the suicide rates in men stop rising or that men are treated more fairly in courts and in society then maybe we won’t call your movement a useless, man hating, rape blaming, slut shaming group.

To all the men in the feminist movement.   GET OUT.  They will throw you under the bus faster than shit on their shoe.   They are fooling you into thinking that they are oppressed.  They are no more oppressed than my big toe.  They have more rights than you and more support systems in place than you.  You are nothing but a “Sperm donor” to them.    This goes for all the gay ones as well.   Just because your gay doesn’t mean you don’t support women’s rights.   Even the men’s groups support women’s rights.   We just don’t oppress men to do it.

To the feminists in general,  Practice what you preach bitches!

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Men’s Rights Movement vs Feminism – Which one is Toxic?

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I’m going to start out by saying up until recently I knew very little about feminists and their movement.  I was always taught that it was about equal rights for both women and men and so when I saw men who identified themselves, as feminists, I really didn’t notice any problem.     That being said, I’ve been finding myself lately watching videos on you tube, that started innocently enough, but delved deeper into feminism and I began to notice a pattern with both the Men’s Rights Activists and the Feminists.   So I decided to educate myself on both sides to find out what was happening.   What I found out shocked me and helped me realize I wasn’t alone.

I will start out with the Men’s Right’s Movement.    These are people who are trying to form associations and groups to bring attention to men’s issues,  just as feminism did for women back in the 1970s.   Some of the issues I can identify with, as I have experienced them before and some I had no clue as I never really considered or thought about to closely.   One of the ones that stuck out for me was the genital mutilation.  I myself I fully admit,  still have my foreskin.   However, being a gay man and before meeting my husband I have slept with other men who weren’t.  They all said the same thing when we discussed uncut vs cut.   They all wished they had their foreskin.   Even my husband says it to me at times and even contemplates getting surgery to get it back.     Not having our foreskin is  a big issue because it leaves scars and even insecurities for men all through their lives, and at the very least leaves them with this sense of regret and longing.

Some other issues that I had a vague idea about but didn’t give much thought was the statistics on the damage done to men by society.
90% of the homeless are men, and almost 100% have some mental disability that doesn’t allow them to be able to function or hold down jobs, and because there are almost zero support systems in place, (because men are supposed to buck up and be men) they end up on the street, sleeping on cardboard on open grates.
The rates of suicide with men are alarming as well.  There is a One in Six chance that a man will kill himself by the time he is Thirty years old.
Then the issue of the court system favoring women over men and men being forced to pay huge sums of money that drive men to suicide or leave the country or even being jailed.
Or the right to choose parenthood.  Men don’t have that choice.

Domestic violence.  Half of all domestic violence against men is done by their wives and spouses.  (This is one feminists disagree with or completely ignore making excuses for the women).    The reason this should be a concern is men are automatically assumed to be the assaulter when the police show and will be charged if it perceived the women is in distress example being crying when the police show.   Even if the guy has been stabbed (there are videos on youtube by guys who got stabbed or worse), by the spouse, the man is still considered the one at fault and in many cases are jailed but are later released or not.

The list goes on and on.   I talked to my husband about these issues and he didn’t know either and was silent listening to me.  I still don’t know what was on his mind as he became really silent and then changed the subject.   The Men’s right movement is seeking to change this and fix the problems that have been overlooked for so long, and this stems from another movement that focused on women’s rights while claiming to be for equality.

That is the Feminist Movement.   Now, like I said I am for equality. I believe everyone should be treated equal and that is what I thought feminists were about.  Until I watched and listened to their theories and curriculum that is taught in college or university.   This movement has started so long ago that there are calling the current crop of college students who identify with this group as “Third Wave” feminists.

What really made me shake my head in complete and utter disgust was the blind stupidity with the majority as a whole.   While individually, many seem reasonable, as a group, they really make you wish their parents had used birth control or their mothers had aborted in the first trimester.  (YES I WENT THERE).

These women are definitely not for equality.  They believe the men (Patriarchy) is the reason why they have always suffered oppression.    Even today in 2015, they are still the victims of oppression and will spew this ideological puke, that sounds so convoluted, you need a flow chart to understand what they are talking about.

Let me explain.

Logically thinking people will think like this;   A to B to C to D = E.      Normal people think in a logical sequence that helps you take proper steps A to achieve E.    This is how, normal sane brain function and critical thinking works.

What you get with feminists is :  A to D to L to N to B to F to 12 to ZZ to Xy = B but really means E.

Makes no sense and you need a flow chart.

The pattern I did notice was that every single idea of theirs left them with zero responsibility for their own actions.   Pretty much every idea had the blame placed solely on the shoulders of men.

Let’s take the rape theories.

1.  If a man and a woman meet in a bar, get drunk and go have sex, then the woman has been raped.   Yup that’s right.  She has been raped.  Why?  Because she was incapable to give consent because, she was drunk.

The reason that idea is absolutely garbage and should be rejected is because the drunk defense is not a defense.  If you get into a car drunk and hit someone, you can’t say “I’m not responsible because I was drunk”.  That defense hasn’t been accepted by courts for decades.   Yet if a woman is drunk she is not responsible and therefore has been raped?  Yet that guy she slept with who was equally drunk is responsible for rape?   This insane notion is harmful because it removes all responsibility of actions from the women and places it on the man.   Not only that but this idea is taken seriously by police and many men, end up in jail for rape, especially if they get a feminist judge.

2.  If a woman doesn’t verbally give consent but ever so slightly pulls away and the man continues and they have sex, then he just committed rape.   This will also land him in jail.    This one also removes all liability from a woman to actually verbally say NO.    The act of saying no was the ever so slight pulling away that you as a man are to magically pick up on.

3.  This one is my favorite as it shows even more how insane this movement is.   If a woman has consensual sex with you, and the next day or a few days later regrets it, that can be considered rape.  However, this one is manipulated.  If your a sane woman reading this and have gone through this scenario and recognize that yes sometimes you can regret this but it isn’t rape, think back to when you did this and talked to friends.   This one is common because feminists will convince you that you have been raped.   Even though you never considered that to begin with.  A women with strong belief system in place will see this and laugh and move on.   Some women will allow their friends to convince them and then off goes the man to jail.

As well we are expected 100% to believe the word of the woman when she claims rape.  She shouldn’t be expected to provide any evidence, and doesn’t need a rape kit done.    Instead her word  should be assumed as gospel, because after all, there is no women on the planet who has never lied or lied to police to get vengeance on a perceived wrong.  All women are again victims and men are scum.   They will even protest on masse at police departments or court houses when they perceive a woman who has claimed rape was found to have no evidence and the case was dropped.  Or found that they fabricated the story.  To feminists, that doesn’t matter and the woman should be believed and the man or men should have their lives ruined, because after all the woman imagined the man doing it so therefor it happened.

Those are just a few of their so called rape scenarios that they really do believe.   One video I watched , the feminists in the audience had question number 1 thrown at them and they unanimously agreed that it was rape.  The speaker, asked them on what earth is that rape when they both consent?   And when a student in the audience along with his “Women’s Studies” professor demanded to see proof that it wasn’t.  She easily responded back with ” It’s logic”.   The one male student the camera focused on looked like he was hit in the head with a bat, as I don’t believe he ever really thought about it but just repeated the same mantras.

Another theory they have is the wage gap.  I couldn’t tell you how wrong that theory and anyone with half a brain and google can find out again this is just not true.    The feminists twist things around here again and say they are the victims of male oppression and still claim it is true.   Even though statistics and studies show it isn’t.   Absolutely insanity.

Then the whole right to the body thing.  Now while I am understanding that view to a point.  I do believe men have rights here too.    A man should have a say in wether or not he can become a father and if the woman doesn’t want the child he should have a say on keeping that baby if he wants it.

Feminists don’t want men to have the choice   To them, the choice was made when they had sex with the woman.   Once you have sex with a feminist, that’s it, your fucked dude.    They will choose to have that child and can force you in law to pay for it.  And don’t think you get off of paying for the child if your not the father, because she can drag you into court and make you pay for it as well.  She usually does this by tricking you into marrying her before the baby is born.   If that baby is black and your both white.  That baby wasn’t yours but she will make you pay for it for the next 21 years.

If you challenge any of their ideas or notions in any organized fashion, they form protests and become violent and then cry they are the victims of oppression.

The following  woman features in many copies of the same video, who in one breath says she is for equal rights and then screams at the men who are trying to speak with her calmly, but she herself in a rage “SHUT THE FUCK UP” or belittles the men when they answer her question about the men’s issues.

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I admit, this woman in particular really made me angry, and I admit I wanted to slap her.  Do a search on the Men’s Right Movement and you will run across the video that many people have posted.   She comes off as a rabid bitch, who should be drugged and put into a padded cell for insane people.    I know what I just said will piss off feminists, but I don’t care.  So far the majority I’ve seen of them, have these insane ideas and will berate men for speaking up.  Those women don’t deserve any respect or me being polite to them.

Now I know I seem harsh but after watching these videos non stop for weeks and comparing the two groups, I can only say that the Men’s Right Movement has my vote.   They do criticize the feminists and their agenda but only because it claims to be for equality then slaps men down when they speak about the issues facing men and boys.    For this reason alone, the MRA will never find any common ground with feminism, because their agenda won’t allow them to admit they have done any harm to men, or are oppressing men.   To them, if you disagree with their agenda then your a misogynist, patriarcal bastard, who oppresses and rapes women.

The new thing the feminists seem to be doing lately as well is attack the gay men.  According to them, they claim we are not supporting them in their agenda.   I have to say as a gay man myself..  NO SHIT SHERLOCK!

So to all the bitchy feminists like the one above and that includes the one in the photo.   The following paragraph is just for you.

I’m a gay man. I supported women’s rights from the very beginning.  I was there in the 90s when lesbians wanted special places to meet and agreed with that.  I had many feminist lesbian friends when I was young.  I supported you, even the women who hated men and were open about it.   I am for and always have been for equality.   But you bitches have subverted the movement and made it toxic.  So much, men are killing themselves from sheer depression, desperation and financial stress so you can be pampered and not have any responsibility for your actions.  Your theories are insane and garbage and any idiot with half a brain can see through them.  You prey on the stupid and have insinuated yourself into our school systems, governments and have subverted things enough that you achieved your goals but are oppressing men and little boys.  You are the evil of the world and you need therapy.    If some of us gay men have not supported you, then BOO FUCKING WHO.  You don’t deserve any man’s support.  I hope all your husband’s and boyfriends smarten up and leave you and leave you with nothing so your forced to fend for yourself.  Your children should be taken away from you, so they don’t learn the hate you spew in the guise of equality.  Until you learn that this planet has two genders and one of them is not your fucking doormat then there cannot be equality.

(This rant was not for those feminists who are the ones who are sane.  That rant was for the delusional ones who spew hate at men).

Call me what you will but at this point I’ve seen the evidence, from the illegal behavior from feminists at protests to stop men’s rights groups to form, gamer-gate propaganda, to the ad campaigns “don’t be that guy”.   It’s all garbage nonsense attacking men and not acknowledging or admitting any responsibility in being part of a gender that consist of half the population that raised those so called rapists.

And now this one is to the men.   Word of advice.   When meeting a woman at a bar or anywhere really, find out right out the bat if they are a feminist if you can.  Ask them questions about what they think about some of the topics above.  If any of them think the men’s rights movement is garbage or agree with the feminists ideas, then run away fast.  Those women are toxic.

Reality Shows – What they really are and why they are so popular.

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Have you ever watched a reality show and became a fan of it?   Or watched shows like Honey Boo Boo, Mike Holmes, Duck Dynasty?

Do you think they are about real life?    Think again.

Reality shows are anything but, reality.   They are designed to sell us something, or encourage behaviors from us or both.  Many of these shows get filmed a year or more before being aired.  They just don’t record a show, then air it that same week.  It has to go through pre production, production, post production.  Has to be approved by many, people and groups before even hitting the airways.

This is something that many of us know and understand as being part of that industry.  What many do not realize is that they target certain social groups with these shows and as well certain mentalities and sadly, IQ levels.

For example, the people who love Mike Holmes shows,Deck Wars, Kitchen Cousins, basically shows about home repair, improvement or fixing up bad renovations,  are targeted by these shows.    In them they find somebody who has a dramatic story of woe, that will get your emotions going and then you watch.   While watching the thirty minute renovation, you learn about tools, or about spray foam insulation or even new technologies like the tankless water heater which gives water on demand.   Or they give you decor ideas with creating a focal point of a fake fireplace with a new large flat screen tv mounted above it.

They are selling you things.   That’s right.  It’s a huge thirty minute to one hour commercial.  And it has another effect.  Of making you go out, getting a home renovation loan and to spend that money on these products in a renovation so you can have that new and shiny home you want, but can’t afford.    When these shows were at their height, the interest rates at the banks were at their lowest and it spurred people to do renovations on their homes, buying these products.   That allowed the banks to profit on unnecessary renovations.

That also spurred another industry, which was and still encouraged by shows like “Property Virgins”, or shows that featured the home designer vs the Realtor.   Numerous shows like this sprung up and became a hit.   All these shows are selling us something or to push us into a specific behavior.   Fixing up, redecorating, renovating and selling and buying homes.  And again, in order to do these things, you need money, and for that you go to the banks.

Then you get shows that people fall into believing these are real everyday people who couldn’t be a lie.   Guess again.  Duck Dynasty.  That’s a show to sell you duck hunting gear.  I’m not talking about the merchandise in Walmart, I’m talking about real hunting gear.   The family in the show portrays themselves as hicks.  Guess again.  They are white-collar yuppies from California, who built a duck hunting merchandise empire.   They created the show to sell their merchandise.  Every word spoken on that show is a lie, written by writers and scripted and polished for you.  To convince you that it’s all real and couldn’t possibly be to sell you anything.   This way you run out and buy their gear.

If you want more evidence of this just look at the credits for these shows.  Look at the sponsor logos and the list of writers.

All the reality shows are there for one reason.  To manipulate you.

Truth about the Birth Registry System.

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(Above:Sample Birth Registry Form)

Many people assume they have rights over the government when it comes to their children.  After all, you are the parents, the ones who love your children, gave birth or raise them.

What if I told you this is only a half truth?   What If I told you that you had no real rights to your child and the rules for raising them?

You would laugh and tell me I’m a moron right?   Don’t worry, I know.  I’ve been called many names over the years for my discovery of this tidbit of information.  Doesn’t make me wrong though.  So far there is no evidence to disprove me.

What you think of your “Parental Rights” is actually usage rights.  Usage rights, doesn’t really mean you have the right to use something as you see fit.   Or own something outright.  It means you can use the item, or in this case raise the child, within the confines of the rules of the government.

You scoff?   Think on this.  How does Children’s Aid societies across the country have so much power?   Why?    They can take your children without warrant or notice for the most trivial of reasons.   So how do they get this power?

This all has to do with law.  This is also why the abortion laws are the way they are.   Before I get into what makes it there.  I will explain a bit about old maritime law.

You see in the time of the big sail ships, that hauled cargo around the world there was certain agreed upon rules that every country followed with foreign cargo vessels.   These rules eventually became Maritime Law and were adopted procedures in law for other things, including registering a child’s birth.

Here is how the old maritime law works.

A ship laden with cargo in it’s hold would come to port of a nation.  The captain would register the cargo and the ship with the harbormaster.   The harbor master would take possession of the cargo into the harbor’s warehouses for safekeeping until the captain could find a buyer for the goods and sell it.  Until then it was kept in trust, and protection by the harbormaster.   So the captain did not have to worry about anyone else stealing that cargo or selling it behind his back.  It also ensured the good behavior of the captain and crew, because if they did anything wrong like break a local law they could confiscate that cargo and jail the crew or captain.

Now I’ll translate this into modern times.

A ship laden with cargo (Pregnant Mother), would come to port of a nation (Government Licensed Hospital), the captain (Father) would register the ship and it’s cargo (Mother is registered at hospital to give birth), The Harbormaster (Government Licensed Doctor), then removes cargo (Baby) from the ship (mother), and it is registered with the harbormaster (Government).  At this point the cargo (Baby) is under the control and protection (Ward) of the harbormaster (Government), until such time as the captain (Father) could find a buyer (Marriage) for the cargo (Baby).  Until that time, the cargo (Baby) remains in the care of the harbormaster (Ward of the state).   The captain (Father)has to follow the rules for trade (Rules for raising the child) within the land (in the country) and if they do something that goes against the local laws, the harbormaster (Government child protection services) then could confiscate the cargo (child) and jail the captain (father) and her crew if warranted.

Now this is 2015 and we live in a so called “Modern society” but this is still true, as it hasn’t changed in centuries.   This is also explains a few other things in our lives that most people don’t even think about.   This is also why the Queen is also known as the “Queen Mum” .  Not because she is old and has children of her own, but because technically according to the propaganda the Queen is the head of state of Canada and England and we are all her children via the registry system.

Why women are “Handed off” to a groom at a wedding.  The captain is selling his cargo and transferring ownership.   And also why fathers had a huge say in the past on who their daughter would marry.  It’s not the only reason by far but its a big one.   And why as well children are considered property or dependents until they reach the age of maturity.

England was the original country this practice was used on human beings and now to this day to the bankers influence on the world, almost everyone is registered.

This is also huge because as parents you don’t really have real rights to your property.  And yes the child is a human being, I understand this, but you created that child.  Your DNA, created it.  That means they had to find a way to trick you into giving up the rights to your property.  So the birth registry is the way.   This is also why in Canada you get a “Baby Bonus” cheque.   They tell you it is to help you pay for expenses for the child.  In reality that this a partial truth.  It is for the expenses of the child, but it is also payment for taking care of the ward of the state that you gave them.  They are paying you to take care of  the child you gave up ownership rights to.

If you hadn’t registered that child, it would be one hundred percent your child.  There have been a few rare cases where a parent did not register their child at birth and one case I read the mother had three children and one was not registered.  Children’s Aid society (child protective services) came and removed the children from the home because the mother didn’t comply with demands from the school for some legal reason.   The next day after the children had been removed, the police brought the one child who wasn’t registered back stating “This one isn’t ours, it’s yours”.   And left.

There are other cases where children are appearing at the age of 16 trying to obtain jobs and can’t because they don’t exist in the government’s eyes because they were never registered, and since people in this country think you have to hire only people with a SIN card, these people are unable to obtain work legally.

(Side note: Think of all the items you register in your life with the government.  The same applies to each one.  Your car, your boat, your home.   None of it is yours after.  It’s all theirs and they can make rules for it all because you got tricked into thinking you had to register your property with them).

Now when you realize  the above as truth, the rest of what happens makes sense.  The ability of the government to legally force you to send your child to their schools to strangers each day.   The ability of the government to decide what medical treatment options are available for children.  The rules for raising them, for feeding them, for housing them, for disciplining them, for nurturing them.

And why when one of these rules is perceived to be broken, Child Protection comes in and removes the child depending on which rule gets broken.

In some court rooms if a father makes a statement that he wants his property returned to him immediately, and has a judge that knows the history and background of the laws and understands them properly, will immediately recognize the father as the property owner and return the child to his custody.    I wouldn’t recommend trying it though, it is usually done in summary judgement otherwise known as Queen’s Bench, and you really have to be able to defend yourself and know your rights in that court.

I was taught all this in grade school and back then I never gave it a thought, because I was a child and didn’t understand the vast implications of a system like this.  The teacher at the time proudly taught us this with a smile, because in her eyes this is a great system.

I guess she didn’t see the lies in it.

(PS: If your a doctor reading this, and have ever gotten new parents to sign the registry document, or had your nurses get the parents do to it, this is exactly what you’ve been doing)

The myth of “rape culture”

For the past couple of years, I have been hearing more and more the words “rape culture”.   I didn’t understand what it meant and to this day, I am not understanding the meaning.   Why?  The meaning is very generalized.  Here is an example, one of many I might add, that no one, and I mean no one has the same definitions.

From Wiki:  (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_culture)

Rape culture is a theoretical concept (a qualitative theory) in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality.

Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, or refusing to acknowledge the harm of some forms of sexual violence. The notion of rape culture has been used to describe and explain behavior within social groups, including prison rape, and in conflict areas where war rape is used as psychological warfare. Entire societies have been alleged to be rape cultures.

I checked many other groups and websites for their definitions, and they all had very broad descriptions of the meaning or some actually citing mundane activities as being part of this myth.

Some of these activities include, but are not limited to:

Asking a woman on a date.

Offering to buy a woman a drink.

Complimenting or commenting on their clothes, hair, looks.

On my social media profile friends list, I had a model on it, who’s specialty was nude modelling.   She proudly displayed each and every image that was taken of her on the social media site.  As a professional photographer, I saw the images for their artistic beauty and didn’t think about them.   This past couple of weeks, a guy on her friend’s list, had made a comment that was inappropriate and rude.   He was basically telling her (in a douche way) that he thought she was hot and wouldn’t mind hooking up with her.

She turned him down, in a very spectacular fashion, and then blocked him.    This I felt should have been the end of it.   Instead, she went on a rant, and drew many people in.  All agreeing with her and talking about rape culture and some like myself didn’t see it that way and said so, and in response they attacked those people and accused them of being part of the problem etc, etc etc.

At one point I had to make a comment, that was both a message to the model and as well to the people commenting.    I stated that while I didn’t feel the guy’s comment was appropriate, I didn’t think her 2 week rant was either.    This prompted attacks from others to me.   Yet when I asked straight forwards questions using logic and critical thinking, I would not get a response but attacks and name calling.

This is what I basically said:

To (Model Name), while I appreciate your work for it’s artistic value, I do find these kinds of rants to be counter-productive and a tad unprofessional.   Here is why, in this world you get many types of people, and some not all, are going to misstep in life.  They will say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing etc.   In this guy’s case, he was arrogant and said something that you weren’t open to.    You stated that just because your a nude model, doesn’t mean you want to sleep with every male out there, and I agree with you on that.   However, you didn’t just block him and ended it.  You went on a week long rant, and drew more and more people into this so horrible victimization of you.   There was no victimization, there was a guy who was a douche, who said something inappropriate.  Now the problem I am having and finding unprofessional is the fact you are omitting your part in this.   You chose to be a nude model.   That was your choice.  You chose to post those images on a social media site publicly.  That was also your choice.    Now while I understand that is not an invitation, there are some people out in the world who have no sense of decorum or decency.  This is not me saying I approve, this is just me stating a fact.   These people exist.  And when you post anything, they will come out and say something, that someone will find inappropriate.   When it comes to social media you can do several things, you can ignore it, delete it, or block the person.   You did this.  You blocked him.

You are not a victim.  You blocked him.

There was no rape.  He didn’t rape you.

There was no sexual assault.   He didn’t touch you.

(I didn’t say it in those words but that is what I was driving at).     Some got it.  One guy in particular attacked me in private messaging for a few days over this, and every-time time I asked him how my actions rape culture, all he could say was that I was blaming the victim.

“What victim?”, I asked.

“Your an idiot”, he said.

“How was she a victim?”, I asked.

“You just don’t understand the nuances.”. he said.

“I’m trying but you wont’ answer my questions so I can learn.” I said.

“You aren’t asking question, you are blaming her.”, he said again.

“I never blamed her, I agreed with her original actions to tell him off and block him.  You still haven’t answered my question.  Who is the victim?  She wasn’t raped, she wasn’t sexually assaulted. So who was victimized?”.

“I’m done, good-bye.”  He said.    This point he blocked me.

Even the people on this “rape culture” bandwagon can’t answer direct questions or even agree on what the myth is.   It’s grown in so many ways to the point of maniacal hysteria.

Let’s look at the Cosby situation.   

Here is a guy who over the years has developed a reputation of being the clean cut father figure.   However, we know he was an actor and a comedian.

Now, a woman who wrote a book over 20 years ago, comes forward to push her book by using a small part of the book were she insinuates that she was sexual assaulted by Cosby but has no actual proof.    She never reported it to police, instead she sued Cosby and it was settled out of court for some long forgotten sum of money.    Everyone seems to not look at that.   Now that he rehashed all this, her book sales are going through the roof.

Now bring in the other women.   All state this happened twenty some odd years ago.  None, and I mean none, can remember details and some even admit to being drunk or assume they were drugged. (Again, no proof).  You have all these women claiming sexual assault but none can provide accurate details or offer evidence that they ever met him in person.

In this media frenzy, we see groups gathering to protest his shows, trying to turn others against him.   The rich and famous of course are putting their two cents in.  Everyone is ignoring a few things.

A victim has two responsibilities.  (Ah yes I know, according to feminists, I am promoting rape culture with this statement, it doesn’t make it untrue though),

Those responsibilities are simple.   The first is the victim has to report the crime.  After all, how is the police supposed to investigate and charge someone with sexual assault or rape if they are not told about it?

The second responsibility is to seek help, to learn how to cope and move forward in their lives.   Support groups, mental health etc.

None, and I mean, none of these women ever did any of the first responsibility.  As for the second, no one is talking about it.

According to the feminists that are on the Myth bandwagon, we should accept a woman’s word as law when it comes to rape and sexual assault.  If they say a guy sexually assaulted them, then they did.    No evidence, no investigation needed.

That’s were I have a problem.    Many women already claim sexual assault and rape when none has occurred.  They do this to get revenge on someone.  Usually an ex-boyfriend or some guy they think has spurned them.   This has happened to a couple of friends in my past who got a knock on the door from police, and later was found innocent or the charges got dropped for lack of evidence or the evidence didn’t match the statements of the women etc.

To live in a free country means that you are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law, by way of facts backed by evidence.  (At least in a criminal court).   And as such, under those rules, Cosby is in fact innocent.   There was never any charges laid, nor any investigation launched.    And the time to press charges is long past their statute of limitation.  Even if there was no limitation, the women can’t even recall details or offer evidence as proof.   Yet we have people who jump on these bandwagons, supporting these accusations simply because the people citing them, simply because the persons making these claims have a vagina.

The Distinction:

Rape is the act of unwanted penetration

Sexual assault is an unwanted sexual touch.

According to the Myth of Rape culture the following is the support and promotion of it.

Asking a woman out on a date.

Asking a women if she wants to have sex.

Whistling at a women who you are attracted to.

Complimenting a woman in any way.

Talking about a woman, about her appearance,  attitudes, fashion choices, etc.
Let’s remove social media out of the picture.  Let’s put in the old fashioned method of meeting people.  The bar.

You walk up to a pretty woman in a bar, introduce yourself, compliment her smile, hair etc.  Things are going well and you get up and dance.  As your confidence builds you put your hand on her butt.   She grimaces for a second when you don’t aren’t looking at her but then smiles at you, and you bump and grind on the dance floor.   After a couple of hours and a few drinks later, you go back to her place or yours.  Have sex and the next day one of you does the walk of shame.

According to the myth rape culture occurred.   Can you spot it?   It was when she grimaced at the touch.  According to the myth, you just sexually assaulted her.   She has zero responsibility according to the myth to tell you she didn’t want her butt touched.

Another scenario in a bar:

You see a beautiful woman at the bar, you walk up and introduce yourself, you have a conversation, for about two hours and she then admits she isn’t interested in you.   You get upset, and tell her off and walk away.

According to the myth this is rape culture.   Men are not allowed to have feelings when being rejected by women.  According to the myth, a man just has to accept it and move on. No feelings required.

As men, we know, that anytime a woman says No.  It means no.   If a man gets upset and states it, then we are apparently promoting this myth.

This is why I call it a myth.  It is used for almost anything that a women disagrees with when it comes to social interactions with men, and there are no hints or even clear rules.  If a woman says no, then you can then be accused of this rape culture myth.   If the woman says yes, then everything is fine.

Canada is not a true democracy.

Canada is not a true democracy.  A true democracy includes those who don’t vote.   One of the fundamental cornerstones or truths in democracy is:

Consent of the governed.

We give our consent to be governed by participating in voting and voting for the person we wish to govern on our behalf.

This is a fundamental truth that the government of Canada will even agree on.  (I called and asked them).

Now here is the simple way to prove we are not a democracy.  The people who do not vote in Canada do not count.  If you speak with elections Canada and ask them what happens when the majority of the population don’t vote, they will tell you that it doesn’t matter, that even if only a thousand people voted then whoever got the most votes wins.

If we are truly giving our consent to be governed, we are removing that consent by not voting.   It doesn’t matter the reason either.   Once we remove that consent that should be it.  The government should dissolve and a new system should take it’s place.   However, according to the government, that isn’t the case.   The government goes one, without the consent.   Therefor, it is not a democracy.  It is a tyranny.  When a small group of people get to decide for the rest and use force to push their rules on them, then that is a tyranny.

In the city were I live, we had our local elections this year.   Only 35% of the population voted.  That means 65% removed their consent.   If this was a democracy, our city government would have disbanded and a new one should have replaced it. Instead we have the people that a small group decided on.    That is tyranny.   You can claim it isn’t all you want but when the majority say no by removing their consent and the government continues then that isn’t a true democracy.

World of Lies and Misinformation – First Blog

I decided to start my word press blog with my view on the world.    The reason I do this is to set the theme of the blog and to help people understand my world.   The following is how I got here.

Years ago, I used to be proud of my country.   I would celebrate on it’s birthday, go to parades, salute our soldiers and feel pride.   I would be the first to shout the propaganda that everyone else shouts out about their country.  “It’s the greatest country on the planet!” or “We are in a free country!”  I’d say.    Unfortunately now,  I know these are lies.  Lies stemming from misconceptions about the world we live in.

Have you ever watched the news and seen a politician make a speech and think to yourself, “something is off”?   Have you ever read a newspaper and thought, “no that information is wrong.”?

You were right.  Deep down inside there was something wrong.  The information in today’s media is at best uninformed, at worst, an outright lie.

I didn’t come to full realization however, until began my studies in contract law.  I run a business, and thought it prudent to learn about contracts and what makes a legal contract and what doesn’t etc.  This was so I could write up a contract between myself and my clients that would be fair and protect both parties.   After learning basic contract law, I saw something.   And I started to delve more into law, and courts and Acts of parliament.

Something dawned on me in that sort of “AHA!” moment.  The type of moment when a light flicks on and a new understanding comes over you and you feel energized.   I looked into court room procedures and watched, thousands of hours of lower court cases.   I read numerous books on law from both the legal profession and the non legal profession.   I then went and researched government, and how it came about.  Going back before the English settled on Canada’s shores.  Delved into how the expedition was financed and how the treaties were signed between England and the Natives.

After spending years reading and researching, I started sharing my findings.  Of course predictably, I have been called names and people have tried to shout me down.  I have even lost friends over my findings and my views.    This doesn’t bother me, it doesn’t bother me to lose a friend over a view.  It doesn’t bother me that people get angry. I understand why they are getting angry and why they disassociate themselves from me.

Truth is blunt and it’s honest.  It’s seldom nice and flowery and it definitely will get people angry.   The truths I have found and tried to share and will share on this blog are an affront to the core of people’s understanding of the world we live in.   They believe many things, all taught in the schools and passed on generation after generation until it becomes part of our very core being.   So when I get angry comments, I do not get offended.  When people try to call me names, I always remember that is the anger from the “programming” we have all been through.

My blog will anger you, if you already do not know what I will tell you.  It will cause you to call me radical or conspiracy nut or even a tin foil hat wearying nut.   I’ve heard them all.  I don’t care if you get angry.  That is a natural response.   I only care that you promise, not me, but yourself that you will have an open mind, and that once your anger has gone, to come back with an open mind.

I will always try to add links for sources on my blogs but this will not always be possible. Many websites that I have found information on have changed or disappeared.  That doesn’t mean I am wrong. It just means the info has been removed by sources beyond my control.   The information I provide can be found in many places.   And like the parts of a computer network, they are not in just one place.

The other thing I would like to point out, is the definition of words.  I’m a stickler on keeping to the definition of words and try to keep to their original meanings.  There is a huge reason for this.

Words are sounds.  We create sounds to identify things and each other.   Without meaning to the sounds we call words then they can mean anything and are useless.  So we give them meaning so we can all understand what we are saying with those sounds.   When we start ignoring the meanings that have been assigned to the sounds then we lose the ability to effectively communicate.    For example the word apple.   When we use that sound, we think of the red fruit from the tree.  We all know an apple and see the image of an apple in our minds.   If we ignore the definition of the word apple, then we try to have a conversation, and I say “the apple rolls down the road smoothly.”, and you wouldn’t understand what I meant because I changed the definition or meaning, and all communication breaks down.

The other thing I would like to point out is societies.   Every society on the planet has it’s own rules, it’s own language and it’s own membership.  In Canada for example we are Canadians, we have English and french and our citizens are the ones allowed to vote and get into the high offices of government.   This is just one example.  I will delving, into another one, hidden in plain sight that many people don’t even think of as a society, not even it’s own members.

Media, government, societies, courts and law will all be deconstructed and explained.  I will point out the major and minor flaws in all and show you were and how we are being manipulated, deceived and most of all, controlled.   And, believe me.  We are being controlled.   In every aspect of our lives, including in many cases our thought processes.

I hope you will continue to read as I post.  I won’t be responding to comments but feel free to keep discussions civil. Any nasty name calling comments or comments that don’t add to a civil discourse will be removed.