I have been seeing outrage over this advertisement by D&G today. Articles, arguments and controversy. It all stemmed from a statement by the fashion duo that stated that IVF children are synthetic children and the only people that should have children are a man and woman. So the outrage poured in, and the media was flooded with everyone putting their two cents in. Then, today I saw outrage at the advertisement above and articles citing that this promotes rape. So because of this statement from the douche duo of the fashion world, they and their brand are under a microscope, and every little thing wrong is pointed out, even perceived wrongs that don’t exist like the photo above.
Now I understand the topic of rape is an emotional one and, anyone who has suffered through rape will automatically go to dark places based on their experiences and assume the worst. This is simply because their mind had a traumatic experience and their thought processes are on survival. So as a result, the people who are overly sensitive to the topic will go to the worst scenario on seeing something like this.
I however, see some problems with this. I don’t see this at all as promoting rape. I see five bored gay male models and one equally bored woman. A person who is being raped, is anything but bored looking but has a look of abject terror or fear. I see none of this in the image.
Other people have stated that this promotes a “gang-bang” and this is supposed to be wrong. I disagree. If all participants are there of their on free will, and consent to the activities in the gang-bang then there is nothing wrong with it. I got angry comments on that statement from many.
In the gay community did we not fight for years for our rights to be recognized to do as we wish in the bedroom with other adults as long as it was consensual? I asked a friend who is also gay, and he decried this was morally wrong. Gang-Bangs are wrong! He said in the comments on his post against this ad. I asked him, how is it wrong if everyone is adults and consenting? “It just is”. And my favorite answer, “because the majority said so”.
I always love the argument that the majority has the moral right to decide what I can and cannot do in the bedroom. Regardless of the fact it hurts no one, it’s still wrong. And that was his stance. Then in private, he told me that in school when he was learning advertising (He owns a media company), he stated that if even one person is offended the ad should be pulled. I thought to myself, “You really believe companies that pay thousands upon thousands, even millions in advertisements will pull entire ads because one single person gets offended?” That is a huge no. It takes a huge public outcry for any company to even consider removing an advertisement or stopping an ad campaign.
And of course the myth came up over and over. I’ve discussed this myth at length before and will say it everytime. There is no group of people, who actively say rape is good. The men in general believe rape is wrong. It’s only the severely screwed up people in the world who rape both men and women.
As you can see by the image, if I was to go directly to a deep dark place, I could assume this depicted men being tormented by women and abused verbally if not psychically. I posted this image and asked where was the outrage when this was done? Why are the feminists and their supporters angry about this? This image is from their 2007 advertising campaign.
Here is another from that same campaign:
Here we see the women again, not only forcing the men to strip, but doing so under a whipping. (Notice the riding crop).
Why are the women not angry at this? Or why didn’t the world scream at this? I can answer this.
We are men. We are the evil of the world. We may be loving husbands, fathers, caring and supportive, but because we have a penis, then we are bad people in general. So it’s okay to beat us, humiliate us, accuse us of promoting rape, and sexualizing women. Even if those women are doing it by consent and full agreement. It doesn’t matter. And if your a man and don’t support this myth blindly, then your labeled as a misogynist and are attacked.
I’m tired of being attacked all the time. For asking questions to further my understanding of the viewpoints of others. I’m tired of being attacked for sharing my viewpoint or even just saying “I just don’t see it”. I’m tired of being attacked for no good reason other than the fact I have my sexual organs on the outside of my body.
Here is another image that didn’t conjure outrage from the feminists either:
So here is an image that has five men. One is naked on the floor with his eyes closed and the others are either dressing or undressing. If you go to that bad dark place and assume the worst, you could say that the guy was drugged and is about to be raped. Or you could assume like I do this is just an image of the after the fact of a gay gang-bang. Which happens a lot in the gay community, so do orgies, and group sex of many types and fetishes. Including men in suits like the one above.
So, assuming this is wrong. Where was the outrage, from the gay community and the feminists? There wasn’t, or at least if there was, it was less than a peep on the media scope. After all, it’s just men in the image being sexualized and promoting the gang rape of men.
The hypocrites of the feminists movement are just that. They get angry at the treatment of women they think is unfair even it is by consent but cheer. Or they get outraged when it’s pointed out that men are abused by both men and women just as much as women are. Like in this billboard advertisement:
If your actually offended by the above billboard then quite possibly your one of those women who are abusing their spouse/partner. There are many forms of abuse, and not all of them are sexual. Many are harmful and don’t leave visible scars.
Emotional abuse. Many women and men will use emotional attacks to degrade or humiliate you. Using emotional manipulation to abuse. Many, many women use this expertly. I don’t care what gender you are both do this but women by nature have this down to an art form.
Verbal abuse. Similar to emotional abuse Verbal is usually direct attacks on a person like name calling or degradation. If a man does this he is attacked by others for doing it. If a woman does it to a man, in public even, there is laughter at the “poor guys” suffering and women cheering on their gender on.
Violence. Slapping, hitting, or any kind of physical attack can be considered this. However, if a woman attacks a man, it’s considered okay in mainstream society. After all a women can do no wrong.
Sexual abuse – This is actually quite common. You think men are the only ones who sexually assault? No. I’ve been slapped on the ass, had by testicles cupped, slapped and even woke up one night to a woman fondling me against my consent. If I was to report it, the police wouldn’t do anything.
Rape – Rape is defined as the act of penetration of the body. This is not sexual it’s about control. Men do it to men and now women are doing it to men. Again, it goes unreported or treated like rape because simply, a man should be able to fight off their attacker since they are a man.
This is all garbage and the women and their supporters who think men are the root of all evil are just plain stupid. Women are just as much to blame for things as men are. So get off your high horses ladies and move into reality.
And before anyone assumes anything, just for disclosure. I’ve been the target of two attempted rapes in my life, had been in abusive relationships with men and have been abused by women who I once called friends. So I’m quite experienced personally with this topic. And I choose not to be a victim or let this define my life.