D&G advertisement – How they are promoting a myth of Rape Culture.

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I have been seeing outrage over this advertisement by D&G today.  Articles, arguments and controversy.  It all stemmed from a statement by the fashion duo that stated that IVF children are synthetic children and the only people that should have children are a man and woman.      So the outrage poured in, and the media was flooded with everyone putting their two cents in.  Then, today I saw outrage at the advertisement above and articles citing that this promotes rape.   So because of this statement from the douche duo of the fashion world, they and their brand are under a microscope, and every little thing wrong is pointed out, even perceived wrongs that don’t exist like the photo above.

Now I understand the topic of rape is an emotional one and, anyone who has suffered through rape will automatically go to dark places based on their experiences and assume the worst.  This is simply because their mind had a traumatic experience and their thought processes are on survival.   So as a result, the people who are overly sensitive to the topic will go to the worst scenario on seeing something like this.

I however, see some problems with this.   I don’t see this at all as promoting rape.  I see five bored gay male models and one equally bored woman.   A person who is being raped, is anything but bored looking but has a look of abject terror or fear.   I see none of this in the image.

Other people have stated that this promotes a “gang-bang” and this is supposed to be wrong.   I disagree.  If all participants are there of their on free will, and consent to the activities in the gang-bang then there is nothing wrong with it.   I got angry comments on that statement from many.

In the gay community did we not fight for years for our rights to be recognized to do as we wish in the bedroom with other adults as long as it was consensual?  I asked a friend who is also gay, and he decried this was morally wrong.  Gang-Bangs are wrong! He said in the comments on his post against this ad.   I asked him, how is it wrong if everyone is adults and consenting?    “It just is”.   And my favorite answer, “because the majority said so”.

I always love the argument that the majority has the moral right to decide what I can and cannot do in the bedroom.   Regardless of the fact it hurts no one, it’s still wrong.   And that was his stance.    Then in private, he told me that in school when he was learning advertising (He owns a media company), he stated that if even one person is offended the ad should be pulled.   I thought to myself, “You really believe companies that pay thousands upon thousands, even millions in advertisements will pull entire ads because one single person gets offended?”     That is a huge no.   It takes a huge public outcry for any company to even consider removing an advertisement or stopping an ad campaign.

And of course the myth came up over and over. I’ve discussed this myth at length before and will say it everytime.  There is no group of people, who actively say rape is good.  The men in general believe rape is wrong.   It’s only the severely screwed up people in the world who rape both men and women.

Next is another advertisement from the same fashion house.
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As you can see by the image, if I was to go directly to a deep dark place, I could assume this depicted men being tormented by women and abused verbally if not psychically.   I posted this image and asked where was the outrage when this was done?  Why are the feminists and their supporters angry about this?     This image is from their 2007 advertising campaign.

Here is another from that same campaign:

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Here we see the women again, not only forcing the men to strip, but doing so under a whipping. (Notice the riding crop).

Why are the women not angry at this?   Or why didn’t the world scream at this?   I can answer this.

We are men.  We are the evil of the world.  We may be loving husbands, fathers, caring and supportive, but because we have a penis, then we are bad people in general.  So it’s okay to beat us, humiliate us, accuse us of promoting rape, and sexualizing women.  Even if those women are doing it by consent and full agreement.    It doesn’t matter.    And if your a man and don’t support this myth blindly, then your labeled as a misogynist and are attacked.

I’m tired of being attacked all the time.  For asking questions to further my understanding of the viewpoints of others.  I’m tired of being attacked for sharing my viewpoint or even just saying “I just don’t see it”.   I’m tired of being attacked for no good reason other than the fact I have my sexual organs on the outside of my body.

Here is another image that didn’t conjure outrage from the feminists either:

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So here is an image that has five men.  One is naked on the floor with his eyes closed and the others are either dressing or undressing.   If you go to that bad dark place and assume the worst, you could say that the guy was drugged and is about to be raped.   Or you could assume like I do this is just an image of the after the fact of a gay gang-bang.   Which happens a lot in the gay community, so do orgies, and group sex of many types and fetishes.   Including men in suits like the one above.

So, assuming this is wrong.  Where was the outrage, from the gay community and the feminists?   There wasn’t, or at least if there was, it was less than a peep on the media scope.  After all, it’s just men in the image being sexualized and promoting the gang rape of men.

The hypocrites of the feminists movement are just that. They get angry at the treatment of women they think is unfair even it is by consent but cheer.  Or they get outraged when it’s pointed out that men are abused by both men and women just as much as women are. Like in this billboard advertisement:

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If your actually offended by the above billboard then quite possibly your one of those women who are abusing their spouse/partner.   There are many forms of abuse, and not all of them are sexual.   Many are harmful and don’t leave visible scars.

Emotional abuse.   Many women and men will use emotional attacks to degrade or humiliate you.    Using emotional manipulation to abuse.   Many, many women use this expertly.  I don’t care what gender you are both do this but women by nature have this down to an art form.

Verbal abuse.  Similar to emotional abuse Verbal is usually direct attacks on a person like name calling or degradation.    If a man does this he is attacked by others for doing it.  If a woman does it to a man, in public even, there is laughter at the “poor guys” suffering and women cheering on their gender on.

Violence.    Slapping, hitting, or any kind of physical attack can be considered this.    However, if a woman attacks a man, it’s considered okay in mainstream society.  After all a women can do no wrong.

Sexual abuse – This is actually quite common.  You think men are the only ones who sexually assault?  No.  I’ve been slapped on the ass, had by testicles cupped, slapped and even woke up one night to a woman fondling me against my consent.    If I was to report it, the police wouldn’t do anything.

Rape – Rape is defined as the act of penetration of the body.    This is not sexual it’s about control.  Men do it to men and now women are doing it to men.   Again, it goes unreported or treated like rape because simply, a man should be able to fight off their attacker since they are a man.

This is all garbage and the women and their supporters who think men are the root of all evil are just plain stupid.  Women are just as much to blame for things as men are.   So get off your high horses ladies and move into reality.

And before anyone assumes anything, just for disclosure.  I’ve been the target of two attempted rapes in my life, had been in abusive relationships with men and have been abused by women who I once called friends.   So I’m quite experienced personally with this topic.  And I choose not to be a victim or let this define my life.

Racism and Sexism – The attack on men.

This will anger many people.  This will cause shouts of outrage from others.    I frankly, don’t care.   I don’t care because if people don’t start standing up against injustice, then we will all be hurt by this.

I’m talking about attacks against white people, men in particular.

No, I am not a white supremacist, and no I don’t hate anyone.  I believe in equality and fair treatment for all.  Man or Woman of any race.

While I recognize that this is not true in many places in the world, in Canada, I believe we have come close to those ideals, but we are definitely not there yet.

In Canada we have adopted cultures and ideas from many parts of the world and made it ours, and part of our cultural identities.   This is a good thing.

In doing so we have become diverse and accepting of many people and accept many traditions without question.

There is a drawback.  We have also accepted hatred.  Hatred against white males.   If your a white male in this country you are attacked in the media constantly.   According to the feminists, we are the cause of all their problems including the non existent wage differences based on sex.  To them, if a male makes more money than them in the same field then it is sexism or gender discrimination.   There is no talk about the skill levels or negotiation ability of individuals.   Going to university for a particular job, applying and not getting paid the same amount as someone who has ten years experience in the position is enough to argue that the woman is being discriminated against based on their gender.

While many companies have wage ranges, you can negotiate your wage within that range, using your skills to determine your wage.  This is how many companies do this.   They do not, do this based on your gender.   If that was true then women in HR departments around the country would be screaming about the companies that do.  No, talk about how some don’t negotiate their wage or are bad at negotiation of said wage.

The same can be said about race.  If you have the skills for the job then you are generally considered for the position you are applying for.   Your skin tone is not a disadvantage in Canada.

In fact, if your of a race other than Caucasian, or are a woman, then you have an advantage in the marketplace.   There are laws in the place, that have been around for decades that require employers to hire people based on skill and they will get tax breaks if they hire people that the government considers minorities or women.  Bonus, if your a minority, and a women and have a handicap.

The government has loan and grant programs that they give to minorities and women every year.   Not to white men.

Years ago, I tried to start my own coffee company.  I had a solid business plan and all my planning was solid and everyone (suppliers, site location, contractors etc) were all set and ready for me to secure finances to start the business and get things going.   I was poor however, working minimum wage jobs and trying to secure a bank loan was impossible.  Turning to the government grants and loans I searched and searched, but couldn’t find any way to get a grant or loan because I didn’t meet any of their criteria except one.  Being gay.  That would have allowed me to secure a grant to start my own non profit organization that was solely for the purpose of the gay community.  This was  out, because a coffee shop is for profit and was for everyone, not just gay people.

In other words, I had no advantage being a white male.  If I had been a woman, or someone of another race, or even handicapped, I would have been given the money no questions.

Here it is the year 2015 and I am still hearing people attacking and blaming white men for all their problems in life.   The new thing is a bill board that was highlighting a problem that has been around for centuries but is never addressed.   Domestic violence against men and the fact there are no shelters to help men who are victims of domestic violence.

The outrage from the feminists could be heard around the globe.  Shouting their indignation that a man would have the audacity of claiming being a victim of domestic violence or abuse.
The bald fact is, it happens.  Just as much as it happens to women.   It isn’t a gender specific problem as the women would have you believe.  There are many many many, women who think it’s alright to degrade, or humiliate the man in their lives, even abuse them physically.   It happens in all types of relationships.   Gay, Straight, Lesbian, Transgender.   All of them.    Having a penis doesn’t exempt you from being victimized.

Men are raped as much as women are.  We men are quiet about it, because we are ridiculed and shamed by society and by women in general.  After all, men are supposed to be strong and able to defend themselves and protect their loved ones.

Another thing that still happens is other races blaming their problems on something that happened to their ancestors.  As if your great great great grandfather being  a slave to a white man, is the cause of you not going to university today.   This really has no bearing in reality, but if you question it, then your automatically dubbed a racist.

In reality, things are better now for everyone except white men.   We are still attacked, abused and accused of being racist simply for the color of our skin.

So think on this.  If your attacking someone based on their skin tone or gender, then who is really the racist or sexist ?  It isn’t me.  I live my life, treating others equally, based on their actions and not their skin tone or gender.

If your a woman, so what?  If can do something I need done, then your hired.  If your, a different race, so what?  If you have the skills I need to get the job done, then your hired.

If you don’t get the job, then chances are you are missing a skill that is required.  If your not being paid the same as the guy who has been at the job for twenty years, then chances are it is because you haven’t been with the company to earn those raises to get to those pay levels.

So to all the feminists and race warriors who think all the white men are evil.   Go look in the mirror.  Chances are the person in the mirror is the racist or biased against gender.  Not me.