Step by step commentary on the Washington Post article – What “Leading” feminists want to accomplish this year. (2014)

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So I’m going to yet another list commenting on a Washington post article about what the feminists hope to accomplish in 2014 for “equality” for all.

1.  My hope is that feminist, racial justice, reproductive rights and LGBT movements build a coalition that centers on the lives of women who lead inter-sectional lives and too often fall in between the cracks of these narrow mission statements.

So this one seems like equality but on the whole it is just plain stupid when you analyze the whole thing.   She wants that feminists, (okay), racial justice (that isn’t a group but an ideal), reproductive rights (again, that isn’t a group of people but a law term), and LGBT movements (That is another group of people), build (that is the act of making a structure), a coalition (How do you make an an coalition with an ideal or a law term?) That centers on the lives of women (AH Yes, what about men CIS, Transexuals and gay and bisexual men?)

In other words you only want equality for yourself and not for anyone else including those in that coaltition.  NEXT!

2. I’d love to see publications make a greater effort to include the voices of women, gender non-conforming people, and people of color – and put programs and policies in place that will help to level the playing field

How much more effort do you want in publications.  The majority of the publications if not all, have women’s voices being heard, and since you can’t really define “non-conforming genders” because GASP!  They don’t identify as man or woman, the ONLY two genders on the planet.   Then they can’t exists and don’t really have any need for any voice but to see a shrink.    People of color?  Are you saying you don’t have any outlets for your voice if your of any color?  Could you ask the BET channel people or the Latino Channels or the Asian channels or the aboriginal channels?  Or the magazines like Belle, FEMME, and the thousands of other magazines that are solely for these groups?  Or the multitudes of sites that are dedicated to allowing everyone equally to blog about their thoughts and feelings, like the one I’m currently writing in?  Fucking dumb people.  *facepalm*

3. I would like to see less digital dualism, which perpetuates the fallacy that online harassment isn’t “real” harassment when in fact so many women writers face threats just for doing their job -writing- on the Internet.

No one believes harassment online isn’t a real thing, the reason why you don’t and I don’t agree on this one is most feminists believe anyone who questions their myths with actual real life data and facts are considered by you feminists to be harassing you.   Criticism is not harassment you stupid fucking idiot.

4.  I would like to see the creation of 2 million new, living wage ($15 or more) care giving jobs, and more affordable options for quality care for working families, particularly in light of the numbers of women in the workforce and the rapidly growing older population in America.

So you want a woman dominated field to force employers to pay their staff $15.00 an hour, which of course would force the daycare centers to charge the parents more money so they can pay the staff. which would mean that less parents could afford the daycare that they can barely afford now, and so because less parents would bring their children to daycare and find alternate places to bring their children, or quit their jobs to take care of their children, then those daycare centers will shut down and you women will be out of jobs and screaming for more daycare.     Did I explain efficiently how stupid your “want” is?  And you go on to want MORE affordable options for quality care for working families, particularly women (sigh, what about men, or gay men who need safe places to retire),   and the rapidly growing older population in america.   So that last “want” shows me you don’t want to again take responsibility but instead want to shove your parents who are getting older into a home, and want the public to pay for this so you don’t have to be responsible by providing care to your parents who had raised you and took care you and gave you, your fucking privilege.  YOU UNGRATEFUL BITCH!

5. We have an amazing opportunity with @heforshe for one half of humanity (men) to join in solidarity with the other half of humanity (women) in creating a shared vision of gender equality that benefits all of humanity.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!   That is fucking hilarious.  You want men to join you in a campaign solely designed to benefit women and call it “gender equality” and have the audacity to say it would benefit all of humanity when the name of it actually says IT IS FOR THE BENEFIT OF WOMEN……. HE (MEN WORKING FOR ) 4SHE (BENEFITING)….   YOU FUCKING STUPID TWAT!  How stupid do you think men are?

6. I hope that 2015 brings a focus on turning the anger and frustration around the issues of police brutality and violence against black people in this country into concrete policy changes being led by the diversity of leaders I’ve seen and continue to see in the 2014 actions. We want to convene the table of change, not have a seat at it.

2015 is here.  Half way through the year.   The police have become more brutal.  Why aren’t the feminists outraged that men are dying and condemning the police for it and rioting in the streets along side them?  OH WAIT! They are praising the mom who pulled her son off the street for fighting and rioting against that very issue you are against.   And not only that you want to convene the table of change.  Not have  seat at it.  This sounds like you want to dictate change and not be part of a discussion.    (You almost had me there but I caught the bullshit!) *wags finger at you*

7. I hope to see a continued resurgence of young Black people owning their power to end police and domestic violence. 2015 will be a year of fresh ideas mixing with tried and true organizing tactics in the tradition of leaders like Ella Baker.

I’m for this one but again, it focus’s on one group and not really equal.  How about ending domestic abuse and police abuse for all.   Since you know, feminism is about equality and not about any one fucking group.   I do get the focus with the crap that happens to the black community so I’ll give them a pass on this one since it is a big issue.

8. I want to see Twitter, Facebook and YouTube set up coherent standards and effective block/report tools to protect users from abuse, and hate speech–particularly rape victims being harassed and doxxed for speaking out

YOU DUMB TWAT.  THEY ALREADY EXIST.   IN FACT WITH A CLICK OF A FUCKING BUTTON YOU CAN EFFECTIVELY HAVE PEOPLE BANNED.     And what the fuck…   You want to “doxxed” people for “speaking out”?  So you are openly and are against FREEDOM OF SPEECH if it goes against what you think is okay.   Is that it?  You fucking feminists are so quick to smear a man’s name if he is perceived as doing something wrong without any evidence, proof or even any arrest.  Just on a woman’s claim, protesting, sending him death threats and attacking him.   And yet you want to see tighter controls to censor free speech on people (men) like me, speaking out against your nonsense bullshit crap, because, we demand equality.   YOU FUCKING TWAT!

9.  I want to see a mass realization that police brutality is a feminist issue and for mainstream feminist organizations to help change those policies.

WHAT THE FUCK!  SO MEN DON”T GET BRUTALIZED BY THE POLICE?   ARE THE RIOTS IN FERGUSON, BALTIMORE, NEW YORK and other places around the United States just what?  Male oppression of women?   FUCK ME! THAT IS THE MOST IDIOTIC STATEMENT OF SELF ENTITLED BULLSHIT.  I THINK I JUST THREW UP A LITTLE IN MY MOUTH.

10. In 2015, I’d love to see more representation of women of color in sociopolitical actions, and I’m doing my part by organizing a Women’s Freedom March centering on women of color and our stories.

Again, what about the men.   Women are represented in every single group out there.   What the fuck!   And why aren’t you calling on your feminists for this since, they allegedly are for equality. OH WAIT!  ONLY THE BLACK WOMEN COUNT FOR YOU!  YOU FUCKING HYPOCRITE, YOUR THROWING YOUR OTHER SISTER FEMINISTS UNDER THE BUS!

11. I want to see queer and trans people of color with radical social and political analyses dominate independent media by creating and growing our own platforms, so we can centralize and control our own narratives.

This one is funny since black people are the most widely known to be homophobic, queer bashing people out there when it comes to their own people.   They are degraded and beaten and killed, even by their own family members for being unmanly by liking the members of the same gender.   The whole black male culture is centered on fucking women to prove manliness.   Anything outside this and most fear for their lives.   And you want more black queer and trans people to openly come forward in that toxic hate filled atmosphere to “dominate” independent media?

Why I kind of applaud the idea, you need to work on acceptance of queer and trans people in your own community more before gay people trust the black community to be open.  And I do give you credit Madam, that you didn’t make this about Women only!  BRAVO!  (Unless by Queer you mean lesbians because I have a hunch that is what you mean by Queer since typically that is a lesbian term)

12.  I hope we can channel the energy around campus gender-based violence toward creating more options outside the criminal justice system for all survivors, not only students.

What the fuck?    Feminists have spent decades instilling into women that they are the victims of violence in a male dominated society.  You even have a gender studies course that teaches you this.   However, this does sound for equality except, your to stupid to realize a campus’s are required to by law to make sure you and everyone are safe and do everything in their power outside of law within their own policies (that feminists dictated), to ensure the safety of “all” (meaning women), students.   WHO THE FUCK ELSE ARE VICTIMS ON A CAMPUS SETTING?   THE BIRDS IN THE TREES?   YOU FUCKING STUPID WOMAN!  *FACEPALM*

13. In 2015 I hope for a movement that is fighting for ALL black lives, and that allows for the stories of ALL black women to be in the forefront of our fight.

Well shit, a feminist for all black lives.  That’s sounds more like equality.  Wait, okay I see the bullshit.   You want ALL BLACK WOMEN ahead of men of your fight.    Not men side by side.   Damn you almost had me there.  Really I applaud you for your sneaky diatribe of hate against men disguised as black united power.   It’s only okay for the black community to come together if women are in  charge is what you just said.  FUCK ME.

14. My 2015 resolution is to make sure that black women, especially black queer and trans women, are playing a strong leadership role in the growing movement for black lives and black liberation–because black women are the portals to the future, we can do a lot to shape a new economy and a new democracy for all of us.

Yes and while black communities are rioting  and burning all over the country, you are worried about black women, lesbians (because I know you don’t like men to have authority) and trans women to be in leadership roles for “all black lives” without actually having men represented here and black women are the portals to the future.   (well yes, because babies come out of you so you are the portal for the future generations).   And yes women can do a lot to shape the economy because it’s geared for them by women.  OH AND DON”T FUCKING BE AN ADVOCATE FOR DEMOCRACY WHEN YOU JUST SAID YOU WANTED EVERYONE BUT MEN IN LEADERSHIP ROLES!  YOU FUCKING STUPID FUCKING MAN HATING WOMAN!

15.  In 2015 I want to see our communities continue to rise up to challenge the criminalization of our people. At the national and local level my organization BAJI and the national network we coordinate, the Black Immigration Network, will be campaigning to end mass incarceration, detention and deportation.

I see no issue with this since you are actually including everyone.   BRAVO MA’AM!  You are the first feminist since I started reading feminist literature, that included men by default.  BRAVO!  *CLAP CLAP CLAP*  I could get behind that idea.  OH WAIT!  The majority of men in prison are because of false rape accusations and as well because they can’t pay female support because the courts favor women over men.  *BUZZER SOUNDS*  Sorry.. can’t get behind this, because the underlying problem still exists from why those men are there.

16. In 2015, I want fewer speeches about supporting women in games and more concrete action – it’s time to open up gamedev to the rest of us.

Game development is always open to you.  GENDER DISCRIMINATION IS AGAINST THE LAW!   THERE ARE AFFIRMATIVE ACTION LAWS THAT FORCE EMPLOYERS TO HIRE WOMEN EVEN IF THEY ARE NOT QUALIFIED.   THE FUCKING REASON DUMB ASS TWATS LIKE YOU AREN’T IN THE GAME DEVELOPMENT INDUSTRY IS BECAUSE YOU ARE CHOOSING NOT TO DO THE WORK TO GET THERE! YOU STUPID SELF ENTITLED BRAT!

Okay folks, *sips cold drink*,  this was a horrible article,  (http://www.washingtonpost.com/blogs/she-the-people/wp/2015/01/02/what-leading-feminists-want-to-accomplish-this-year/)   I used to have some respect for the Washington post for some journalist (not much) ethics    The article, to give the post credit is a blog by an self described “writer”.  Since anyone can label themselves a writer now for writing a blog, or anything I guess that makes me one as well.    The only difference between myself and this writer, Ruth Tam is that I believe in equality, and truth for men and women, and don’t try to put my gender above women’s under the guise of “equality”.

#DONTBETHATWOMAN!

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I thought I heard it all… until today.

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Today I heard a term I first heard on South Park and never heard about again.  At the time, I had no clue what South Park was joking about and frankly, laughed along with the episode, (Cartman is fucking funny!)

Today,  I ran into it again.  It was on a youtube video from a self described CIS male feminist, about why he needs feminism.  He started his dialog with describing himself as a “Identifying as CIS with his assigned gender”.    This caused me to do a search online for the term and get more information.

Here is the Wikipedia entry on it.

Cisgender and cissexual (often abbreviated to simply cis) describe related types of gender identity where individuals’ experiences of their own gender match the sex they were assigned at birth.[1] Sociologists Kristen Schilt and Laurel Westbrook define cisgender as a label for “individuals who have a match between the gender they were assigned at birth, their bodies, and their personal identity” as a complement to transgender.[2]

Please read that entry carefully.   If you are scratching your head, it is the same reaction I had.  There are a few issues with this.

Gender isn’t “assigned at birth”.   You are either male or female.   That is the way it is.  You can’t magically assign a baby with a penis as female or vice versa,   So by identifying your self as CIS your basically saying without saying it your male or female.  In the case of the experience with the video, he was male.

He continued by stating he needed feminism because while being CIS he didn’t fit the “Idea” of male by others and would experience shaming etc from other males or females.    So his reasoning was to join a group of females and males who are for the oppression of men.      He then continues and talks about how he has trouble finding potential dating partners and it is obvious he is leaving out pronouns in his descriptions.   For example he will not say He or She.  It’s always partner.   So for me being a gay man, and having seen this over and over and over and over and over for almost thirty years, I pegged him as being gay and in the closet.  Which if he was in the states, I can understand why depending on which state he is in.

CIS?  I’m so floored by the idiocy of the feminists and yet am in awe.  Not because they are great.  I’ve made it clear in previous pages that I hate feminism and all it stands for, but for the way it has interwoven so much into society that is can turn anyone from identifying from their gender to some fake one.

According to feminist theories from what I am reading they basically want to eliminate any type of gender identity.  That’s right.  They want eliminate the idea I’m a man because I have a beard, or that we identify a woman because she doesn’t have a beard etc.

I am honestly thinking I have to hit my head on a brick wall to make myself stupid enough to believe this garbage.  And yet we have millions of young girls going to university, spending billions of dollars in tuition to learn this in gender studies.

And these young feminists wonder why their Bachelor in Gender Studies has no value in the world?

Men’s Rights Movement vs Feminism – Which one is Toxic?

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I’m going to start out by saying up until recently I knew very little about feminists and their movement.  I was always taught that it was about equal rights for both women and men and so when I saw men who identified themselves, as feminists, I really didn’t notice any problem.     That being said, I’ve been finding myself lately watching videos on you tube, that started innocently enough, but delved deeper into feminism and I began to notice a pattern with both the Men’s Rights Activists and the Feminists.   So I decided to educate myself on both sides to find out what was happening.   What I found out shocked me and helped me realize I wasn’t alone.

I will start out with the Men’s Right’s Movement.    These are people who are trying to form associations and groups to bring attention to men’s issues,  just as feminism did for women back in the 1970s.   Some of the issues I can identify with, as I have experienced them before and some I had no clue as I never really considered or thought about to closely.   One of the ones that stuck out for me was the genital mutilation.  I myself I fully admit,  still have my foreskin.   However, being a gay man and before meeting my husband I have slept with other men who weren’t.  They all said the same thing when we discussed uncut vs cut.   They all wished they had their foreskin.   Even my husband says it to me at times and even contemplates getting surgery to get it back.     Not having our foreskin is  a big issue because it leaves scars and even insecurities for men all through their lives, and at the very least leaves them with this sense of regret and longing.

Some other issues that I had a vague idea about but didn’t give much thought was the statistics on the damage done to men by society.
90% of the homeless are men, and almost 100% have some mental disability that doesn’t allow them to be able to function or hold down jobs, and because there are almost zero support systems in place, (because men are supposed to buck up and be men) they end up on the street, sleeping on cardboard on open grates.
The rates of suicide with men are alarming as well.  There is a One in Six chance that a man will kill himself by the time he is Thirty years old.
Then the issue of the court system favoring women over men and men being forced to pay huge sums of money that drive men to suicide or leave the country or even being jailed.
Or the right to choose parenthood.  Men don’t have that choice.

Domestic violence.  Half of all domestic violence against men is done by their wives and spouses.  (This is one feminists disagree with or completely ignore making excuses for the women).    The reason this should be a concern is men are automatically assumed to be the assaulter when the police show and will be charged if it perceived the women is in distress example being crying when the police show.   Even if the guy has been stabbed (there are videos on youtube by guys who got stabbed or worse), by the spouse, the man is still considered the one at fault and in many cases are jailed but are later released or not.

The list goes on and on.   I talked to my husband about these issues and he didn’t know either and was silent listening to me.  I still don’t know what was on his mind as he became really silent and then changed the subject.   The Men’s right movement is seeking to change this and fix the problems that have been overlooked for so long, and this stems from another movement that focused on women’s rights while claiming to be for equality.

That is the Feminist Movement.   Now, like I said I am for equality. I believe everyone should be treated equal and that is what I thought feminists were about.  Until I watched and listened to their theories and curriculum that is taught in college or university.   This movement has started so long ago that there are calling the current crop of college students who identify with this group as “Third Wave” feminists.

What really made me shake my head in complete and utter disgust was the blind stupidity with the majority as a whole.   While individually, many seem reasonable, as a group, they really make you wish their parents had used birth control or their mothers had aborted in the first trimester.  (YES I WENT THERE).

These women are definitely not for equality.  They believe the men (Patriarchy) is the reason why they have always suffered oppression.    Even today in 2015, they are still the victims of oppression and will spew this ideological puke, that sounds so convoluted, you need a flow chart to understand what they are talking about.

Let me explain.

Logically thinking people will think like this;   A to B to C to D = E.      Normal people think in a logical sequence that helps you take proper steps A to achieve E.    This is how, normal sane brain function and critical thinking works.

What you get with feminists is :  A to D to L to N to B to F to 12 to ZZ to Xy = B but really means E.

Makes no sense and you need a flow chart.

The pattern I did notice was that every single idea of theirs left them with zero responsibility for their own actions.   Pretty much every idea had the blame placed solely on the shoulders of men.

Let’s take the rape theories.

1.  If a man and a woman meet in a bar, get drunk and go have sex, then the woman has been raped.   Yup that’s right.  She has been raped.  Why?  Because she was incapable to give consent because, she was drunk.

The reason that idea is absolutely garbage and should be rejected is because the drunk defense is not a defense.  If you get into a car drunk and hit someone, you can’t say “I’m not responsible because I was drunk”.  That defense hasn’t been accepted by courts for decades.   Yet if a woman is drunk she is not responsible and therefore has been raped?  Yet that guy she slept with who was equally drunk is responsible for rape?   This insane notion is harmful because it removes all responsibility of actions from the women and places it on the man.   Not only that but this idea is taken seriously by police and many men, end up in jail for rape, especially if they get a feminist judge.

2.  If a woman doesn’t verbally give consent but ever so slightly pulls away and the man continues and they have sex, then he just committed rape.   This will also land him in jail.    This one also removes all liability from a woman to actually verbally say NO.    The act of saying no was the ever so slight pulling away that you as a man are to magically pick up on.

3.  This one is my favorite as it shows even more how insane this movement is.   If a woman has consensual sex with you, and the next day or a few days later regrets it, that can be considered rape.  However, this one is manipulated.  If your a sane woman reading this and have gone through this scenario and recognize that yes sometimes you can regret this but it isn’t rape, think back to when you did this and talked to friends.   This one is common because feminists will convince you that you have been raped.   Even though you never considered that to begin with.  A women with strong belief system in place will see this and laugh and move on.   Some women will allow their friends to convince them and then off goes the man to jail.

As well we are expected 100% to believe the word of the woman when she claims rape.  She shouldn’t be expected to provide any evidence, and doesn’t need a rape kit done.    Instead her word  should be assumed as gospel, because after all, there is no women on the planet who has never lied or lied to police to get vengeance on a perceived wrong.  All women are again victims and men are scum.   They will even protest on masse at police departments or court houses when they perceive a woman who has claimed rape was found to have no evidence and the case was dropped.  Or found that they fabricated the story.  To feminists, that doesn’t matter and the woman should be believed and the man or men should have their lives ruined, because after all the woman imagined the man doing it so therefor it happened.

Those are just a few of their so called rape scenarios that they really do believe.   One video I watched , the feminists in the audience had question number 1 thrown at them and they unanimously agreed that it was rape.  The speaker, asked them on what earth is that rape when they both consent?   And when a student in the audience along with his “Women’s Studies” professor demanded to see proof that it wasn’t.  She easily responded back with ” It’s logic”.   The one male student the camera focused on looked like he was hit in the head with a bat, as I don’t believe he ever really thought about it but just repeated the same mantras.

Another theory they have is the wage gap.  I couldn’t tell you how wrong that theory and anyone with half a brain and google can find out again this is just not true.    The feminists twist things around here again and say they are the victims of male oppression and still claim it is true.   Even though statistics and studies show it isn’t.   Absolutely insanity.

Then the whole right to the body thing.  Now while I am understanding that view to a point.  I do believe men have rights here too.    A man should have a say in wether or not he can become a father and if the woman doesn’t want the child he should have a say on keeping that baby if he wants it.

Feminists don’t want men to have the choice   To them, the choice was made when they had sex with the woman.   Once you have sex with a feminist, that’s it, your fucked dude.    They will choose to have that child and can force you in law to pay for it.  And don’t think you get off of paying for the child if your not the father, because she can drag you into court and make you pay for it as well.  She usually does this by tricking you into marrying her before the baby is born.   If that baby is black and your both white.  That baby wasn’t yours but she will make you pay for it for the next 21 years.

If you challenge any of their ideas or notions in any organized fashion, they form protests and become violent and then cry they are the victims of oppression.

The following  woman features in many copies of the same video, who in one breath says she is for equal rights and then screams at the men who are trying to speak with her calmly, but she herself in a rage “SHUT THE FUCK UP” or belittles the men when they answer her question about the men’s issues.

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I admit, this woman in particular really made me angry, and I admit I wanted to slap her.  Do a search on the Men’s Right Movement and you will run across the video that many people have posted.   She comes off as a rabid bitch, who should be drugged and put into a padded cell for insane people.    I know what I just said will piss off feminists, but I don’t care.  So far the majority I’ve seen of them, have these insane ideas and will berate men for speaking up.  Those women don’t deserve any respect or me being polite to them.

Now I know I seem harsh but after watching these videos non stop for weeks and comparing the two groups, I can only say that the Men’s Right Movement has my vote.   They do criticize the feminists and their agenda but only because it claims to be for equality then slaps men down when they speak about the issues facing men and boys.    For this reason alone, the MRA will never find any common ground with feminism, because their agenda won’t allow them to admit they have done any harm to men, or are oppressing men.   To them, if you disagree with their agenda then your a misogynist, patriarcal bastard, who oppresses and rapes women.

The new thing the feminists seem to be doing lately as well is attack the gay men.  According to them, they claim we are not supporting them in their agenda.   I have to say as a gay man myself..  NO SHIT SHERLOCK!

So to all the bitchy feminists like the one above and that includes the one in the photo.   The following paragraph is just for you.

I’m a gay man. I supported women’s rights from the very beginning.  I was there in the 90s when lesbians wanted special places to meet and agreed with that.  I had many feminist lesbian friends when I was young.  I supported you, even the women who hated men and were open about it.   I am for and always have been for equality.   But you bitches have subverted the movement and made it toxic.  So much, men are killing themselves from sheer depression, desperation and financial stress so you can be pampered and not have any responsibility for your actions.  Your theories are insane and garbage and any idiot with half a brain can see through them.  You prey on the stupid and have insinuated yourself into our school systems, governments and have subverted things enough that you achieved your goals but are oppressing men and little boys.  You are the evil of the world and you need therapy.    If some of us gay men have not supported you, then BOO FUCKING WHO.  You don’t deserve any man’s support.  I hope all your husband’s and boyfriends smarten up and leave you and leave you with nothing so your forced to fend for yourself.  Your children should be taken away from you, so they don’t learn the hate you spew in the guise of equality.  Until you learn that this planet has two genders and one of them is not your fucking doormat then there cannot be equality.

(This rant was not for those feminists who are the ones who are sane.  That rant was for the delusional ones who spew hate at men).

Call me what you will but at this point I’ve seen the evidence, from the illegal behavior from feminists at protests to stop men’s rights groups to form, gamer-gate propaganda, to the ad campaigns “don’t be that guy”.   It’s all garbage nonsense attacking men and not acknowledging or admitting any responsibility in being part of a gender that consist of half the population that raised those so called rapists.

And now this one is to the men.   Word of advice.   When meeting a woman at a bar or anywhere really, find out right out the bat if they are a feminist if you can.  Ask them questions about what they think about some of the topics above.  If any of them think the men’s rights movement is garbage or agree with the feminists ideas, then run away fast.  Those women are toxic.

D&G advertisement – How they are promoting a myth of Rape Culture.

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I have been seeing outrage over this advertisement by D&G today.  Articles, arguments and controversy.  It all stemmed from a statement by the fashion duo that stated that IVF children are synthetic children and the only people that should have children are a man and woman.      So the outrage poured in, and the media was flooded with everyone putting their two cents in.  Then, today I saw outrage at the advertisement above and articles citing that this promotes rape.   So because of this statement from the douche duo of the fashion world, they and their brand are under a microscope, and every little thing wrong is pointed out, even perceived wrongs that don’t exist like the photo above.

Now I understand the topic of rape is an emotional one and, anyone who has suffered through rape will automatically go to dark places based on their experiences and assume the worst.  This is simply because their mind had a traumatic experience and their thought processes are on survival.   So as a result, the people who are overly sensitive to the topic will go to the worst scenario on seeing something like this.

I however, see some problems with this.   I don’t see this at all as promoting rape.  I see five bored gay male models and one equally bored woman.   A person who is being raped, is anything but bored looking but has a look of abject terror or fear.   I see none of this in the image.

Other people have stated that this promotes a “gang-bang” and this is supposed to be wrong.   I disagree.  If all participants are there of their on free will, and consent to the activities in the gang-bang then there is nothing wrong with it.   I got angry comments on that statement from many.

In the gay community did we not fight for years for our rights to be recognized to do as we wish in the bedroom with other adults as long as it was consensual?  I asked a friend who is also gay, and he decried this was morally wrong.  Gang-Bangs are wrong! He said in the comments on his post against this ad.   I asked him, how is it wrong if everyone is adults and consenting?    “It just is”.   And my favorite answer, “because the majority said so”.

I always love the argument that the majority has the moral right to decide what I can and cannot do in the bedroom.   Regardless of the fact it hurts no one, it’s still wrong.   And that was his stance.    Then in private, he told me that in school when he was learning advertising (He owns a media company), he stated that if even one person is offended the ad should be pulled.   I thought to myself, “You really believe companies that pay thousands upon thousands, even millions in advertisements will pull entire ads because one single person gets offended?”     That is a huge no.   It takes a huge public outcry for any company to even consider removing an advertisement or stopping an ad campaign.

And of course the myth came up over and over. I’ve discussed this myth at length before and will say it everytime.  There is no group of people, who actively say rape is good.  The men in general believe rape is wrong.   It’s only the severely screwed up people in the world who rape both men and women.

Next is another advertisement from the same fashion house.
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As you can see by the image, if I was to go directly to a deep dark place, I could assume this depicted men being tormented by women and abused verbally if not psychically.   I posted this image and asked where was the outrage when this was done?  Why are the feminists and their supporters angry about this?     This image is from their 2007 advertising campaign.

Here is another from that same campaign:

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Here we see the women again, not only forcing the men to strip, but doing so under a whipping. (Notice the riding crop).

Why are the women not angry at this?   Or why didn’t the world scream at this?   I can answer this.

We are men.  We are the evil of the world.  We may be loving husbands, fathers, caring and supportive, but because we have a penis, then we are bad people in general.  So it’s okay to beat us, humiliate us, accuse us of promoting rape, and sexualizing women.  Even if those women are doing it by consent and full agreement.    It doesn’t matter.    And if your a man and don’t support this myth blindly, then your labeled as a misogynist and are attacked.

I’m tired of being attacked all the time.  For asking questions to further my understanding of the viewpoints of others.  I’m tired of being attacked for sharing my viewpoint or even just saying “I just don’t see it”.   I’m tired of being attacked for no good reason other than the fact I have my sexual organs on the outside of my body.

Here is another image that didn’t conjure outrage from the feminists either:

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So here is an image that has five men.  One is naked on the floor with his eyes closed and the others are either dressing or undressing.   If you go to that bad dark place and assume the worst, you could say that the guy was drugged and is about to be raped.   Or you could assume like I do this is just an image of the after the fact of a gay gang-bang.   Which happens a lot in the gay community, so do orgies, and group sex of many types and fetishes.   Including men in suits like the one above.

So, assuming this is wrong.  Where was the outrage, from the gay community and the feminists?   There wasn’t, or at least if there was, it was less than a peep on the media scope.  After all, it’s just men in the image being sexualized and promoting the gang rape of men.

The hypocrites of the feminists movement are just that. They get angry at the treatment of women they think is unfair even it is by consent but cheer.  Or they get outraged when it’s pointed out that men are abused by both men and women just as much as women are. Like in this billboard advertisement:

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If your actually offended by the above billboard then quite possibly your one of those women who are abusing their spouse/partner.   There are many forms of abuse, and not all of them are sexual.   Many are harmful and don’t leave visible scars.

Emotional abuse.   Many women and men will use emotional attacks to degrade or humiliate you.    Using emotional manipulation to abuse.   Many, many women use this expertly.  I don’t care what gender you are both do this but women by nature have this down to an art form.

Verbal abuse.  Similar to emotional abuse Verbal is usually direct attacks on a person like name calling or degradation.    If a man does this he is attacked by others for doing it.  If a woman does it to a man, in public even, there is laughter at the “poor guys” suffering and women cheering on their gender on.

Violence.    Slapping, hitting, or any kind of physical attack can be considered this.    However, if a woman attacks a man, it’s considered okay in mainstream society.  After all a women can do no wrong.

Sexual abuse – This is actually quite common.  You think men are the only ones who sexually assault?  No.  I’ve been slapped on the ass, had by testicles cupped, slapped and even woke up one night to a woman fondling me against my consent.    If I was to report it, the police wouldn’t do anything.

Rape – Rape is defined as the act of penetration of the body.    This is not sexual it’s about control.  Men do it to men and now women are doing it to men.   Again, it goes unreported or treated like rape because simply, a man should be able to fight off their attacker since they are a man.

This is all garbage and the women and their supporters who think men are the root of all evil are just plain stupid.  Women are just as much to blame for things as men are.   So get off your high horses ladies and move into reality.

And before anyone assumes anything, just for disclosure.  I’ve been the target of two attempted rapes in my life, had been in abusive relationships with men and have been abused by women who I once called friends.   So I’m quite experienced personally with this topic.  And I choose not to be a victim or let this define my life.

The myth of “rape culture”

For the past couple of years, I have been hearing more and more the words “rape culture”.   I didn’t understand what it meant and to this day, I am not understanding the meaning.   Why?  The meaning is very generalized.  Here is an example, one of many I might add, that no one, and I mean no one has the same definitions.

From Wiki:  (https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rape_culture)

Rape culture is a theoretical concept (a qualitative theory) in which rape is pervasive and normalized due to societal attitudes about gender and sexuality.

Behaviors commonly associated with rape culture include victim blaming, sexual objectification, trivializing rape, denial of widespread rape, or refusing to acknowledge the harm of some forms of sexual violence. The notion of rape culture has been used to describe and explain behavior within social groups, including prison rape, and in conflict areas where war rape is used as psychological warfare. Entire societies have been alleged to be rape cultures.

I checked many other groups and websites for their definitions, and they all had very broad descriptions of the meaning or some actually citing mundane activities as being part of this myth.

Some of these activities include, but are not limited to:

Asking a woman on a date.

Offering to buy a woman a drink.

Complimenting or commenting on their clothes, hair, looks.

On my social media profile friends list, I had a model on it, who’s specialty was nude modelling.   She proudly displayed each and every image that was taken of her on the social media site.  As a professional photographer, I saw the images for their artistic beauty and didn’t think about them.   This past couple of weeks, a guy on her friend’s list, had made a comment that was inappropriate and rude.   He was basically telling her (in a douche way) that he thought she was hot and wouldn’t mind hooking up with her.

She turned him down, in a very spectacular fashion, and then blocked him.    This I felt should have been the end of it.   Instead, she went on a rant, and drew many people in.  All agreeing with her and talking about rape culture and some like myself didn’t see it that way and said so, and in response they attacked those people and accused them of being part of the problem etc, etc etc.

At one point I had to make a comment, that was both a message to the model and as well to the people commenting.    I stated that while I didn’t feel the guy’s comment was appropriate, I didn’t think her 2 week rant was either.    This prompted attacks from others to me.   Yet when I asked straight forwards questions using logic and critical thinking, I would not get a response but attacks and name calling.

This is what I basically said:

To (Model Name), while I appreciate your work for it’s artistic value, I do find these kinds of rants to be counter-productive and a tad unprofessional.   Here is why, in this world you get many types of people, and some not all, are going to misstep in life.  They will say the wrong thing, do the wrong thing etc.   In this guy’s case, he was arrogant and said something that you weren’t open to.    You stated that just because your a nude model, doesn’t mean you want to sleep with every male out there, and I agree with you on that.   However, you didn’t just block him and ended it.  You went on a week long rant, and drew more and more people into this so horrible victimization of you.   There was no victimization, there was a guy who was a douche, who said something inappropriate.  Now the problem I am having and finding unprofessional is the fact you are omitting your part in this.   You chose to be a nude model.   That was your choice.  You chose to post those images on a social media site publicly.  That was also your choice.    Now while I understand that is not an invitation, there are some people out in the world who have no sense of decorum or decency.  This is not me saying I approve, this is just me stating a fact.   These people exist.  And when you post anything, they will come out and say something, that someone will find inappropriate.   When it comes to social media you can do several things, you can ignore it, delete it, or block the person.   You did this.  You blocked him.

You are not a victim.  You blocked him.

There was no rape.  He didn’t rape you.

There was no sexual assault.   He didn’t touch you.

(I didn’t say it in those words but that is what I was driving at).     Some got it.  One guy in particular attacked me in private messaging for a few days over this, and every-time time I asked him how my actions rape culture, all he could say was that I was blaming the victim.

“What victim?”, I asked.

“Your an idiot”, he said.

“How was she a victim?”, I asked.

“You just don’t understand the nuances.”. he said.

“I’m trying but you wont’ answer my questions so I can learn.” I said.

“You aren’t asking question, you are blaming her.”, he said again.

“I never blamed her, I agreed with her original actions to tell him off and block him.  You still haven’t answered my question.  Who is the victim?  She wasn’t raped, she wasn’t sexually assaulted. So who was victimized?”.

“I’m done, good-bye.”  He said.    This point he blocked me.

Even the people on this “rape culture” bandwagon can’t answer direct questions or even agree on what the myth is.   It’s grown in so many ways to the point of maniacal hysteria.

Let’s look at the Cosby situation.   

Here is a guy who over the years has developed a reputation of being the clean cut father figure.   However, we know he was an actor and a comedian.

Now, a woman who wrote a book over 20 years ago, comes forward to push her book by using a small part of the book were she insinuates that she was sexual assaulted by Cosby but has no actual proof.    She never reported it to police, instead she sued Cosby and it was settled out of court for some long forgotten sum of money.    Everyone seems to not look at that.   Now that he rehashed all this, her book sales are going through the roof.

Now bring in the other women.   All state this happened twenty some odd years ago.  None, and I mean none, can remember details and some even admit to being drunk or assume they were drugged. (Again, no proof).  You have all these women claiming sexual assault but none can provide accurate details or offer evidence that they ever met him in person.

In this media frenzy, we see groups gathering to protest his shows, trying to turn others against him.   The rich and famous of course are putting their two cents in.  Everyone is ignoring a few things.

A victim has two responsibilities.  (Ah yes I know, according to feminists, I am promoting rape culture with this statement, it doesn’t make it untrue though),

Those responsibilities are simple.   The first is the victim has to report the crime.  After all, how is the police supposed to investigate and charge someone with sexual assault or rape if they are not told about it?

The second responsibility is to seek help, to learn how to cope and move forward in their lives.   Support groups, mental health etc.

None, and I mean, none of these women ever did any of the first responsibility.  As for the second, no one is talking about it.

According to the feminists that are on the Myth bandwagon, we should accept a woman’s word as law when it comes to rape and sexual assault.  If they say a guy sexually assaulted them, then they did.    No evidence, no investigation needed.

That’s were I have a problem.    Many women already claim sexual assault and rape when none has occurred.  They do this to get revenge on someone.  Usually an ex-boyfriend or some guy they think has spurned them.   This has happened to a couple of friends in my past who got a knock on the door from police, and later was found innocent or the charges got dropped for lack of evidence or the evidence didn’t match the statements of the women etc.

To live in a free country means that you are innocent until proven guilty in a court of law, by way of facts backed by evidence.  (At least in a criminal court).   And as such, under those rules, Cosby is in fact innocent.   There was never any charges laid, nor any investigation launched.    And the time to press charges is long past their statute of limitation.  Even if there was no limitation, the women can’t even recall details or offer evidence as proof.   Yet we have people who jump on these bandwagons, supporting these accusations simply because the people citing them, simply because the persons making these claims have a vagina.

The Distinction:

Rape is the act of unwanted penetration

Sexual assault is an unwanted sexual touch.

According to the Myth of Rape culture the following is the support and promotion of it.

Asking a woman out on a date.

Asking a women if she wants to have sex.

Whistling at a women who you are attracted to.

Complimenting a woman in any way.

Talking about a woman, about her appearance,  attitudes, fashion choices, etc.
Let’s remove social media out of the picture.  Let’s put in the old fashioned method of meeting people.  The bar.

You walk up to a pretty woman in a bar, introduce yourself, compliment her smile, hair etc.  Things are going well and you get up and dance.  As your confidence builds you put your hand on her butt.   She grimaces for a second when you don’t aren’t looking at her but then smiles at you, and you bump and grind on the dance floor.   After a couple of hours and a few drinks later, you go back to her place or yours.  Have sex and the next day one of you does the walk of shame.

According to the myth rape culture occurred.   Can you spot it?   It was when she grimaced at the touch.  According to the myth, you just sexually assaulted her.   She has zero responsibility according to the myth to tell you she didn’t want her butt touched.

Another scenario in a bar:

You see a beautiful woman at the bar, you walk up and introduce yourself, you have a conversation, for about two hours and she then admits she isn’t interested in you.   You get upset, and tell her off and walk away.

According to the myth this is rape culture.   Men are not allowed to have feelings when being rejected by women.  According to the myth, a man just has to accept it and move on. No feelings required.

As men, we know, that anytime a woman says No.  It means no.   If a man gets upset and states it, then we are apparently promoting this myth.

This is why I call it a myth.  It is used for almost anything that a women disagrees with when it comes to social interactions with men, and there are no hints or even clear rules.  If a woman says no, then you can then be accused of this rape culture myth.   If the woman says yes, then everything is fine.

Anger .. The cause of much…

I was online earlier today and noticed a comment on a friend’s status about an article that appeared in the canadian news papers about a Canadian kid who went over to ISIS and made a video to warn Canada.

Now, please understand. I don’t like war.  I think it should be avoided at all costs.  I do know that sometimes, just sometimes it is justifyable.   I also look at these stories with a grain of salt when it comes from the mainstream, and i don’t look at it from angry eyes.

My friend’s anger was almost of a nature of fire and brimestone.  He condemned the kid in the story, called him traitor, denouncing him for joining a cause.

My friend in question was from anger, real anger derived from coming from Lebannon, a country were war is real and religious hate groups are real.  He has family that still lives there in fact.

The anger directed at ISIS and ISIL is to me, crazy and extreme in itself.   People are righteous in their hatred and anger for them without really able to express why.

I pointed out to my friend that coming from a view that I had no emotional attachment going either way I could see why and how these groups have sprung up and quite frankly, don’t blame it for happening.   I believe we Canadians would do the same if we were in their positions.   In fact, history shows we have in our early beginnings.   Not based on Religion but on a goal.

This is the same for ISIS and ISIL.   I can’t see them as some monster in the dark who will cut off my head.  I can’t, and anyone who looks at the world with an open mind, will see what caused this situation in the first place.   Plus when you have watched this all your life, in these countries then you can see the progression and know that these groups are desperate people.

Now before you go on a rant, think for a moment.

These countries used to be peaceful for the most part.  Every once in awhile one would break out in war and always,  ALWAYS, the american military would be there.   When I was younger, I would watch the news and it was always put forth that the american troops were there to stabilize the middle east.  To bring peace again to a “war torn” nation.   We don’t hear that anymore, we don’t even see the media even try to tell us that anymore.

Many of these countries are very powerful.   The reason for this is they are oil producing countries that control a huge portion of the world’s oil supply.   By destabilizing their governments and plunging those countries into wars, the american government can send troops in under the pretense of protecting the people and oh, protecting the oil as well.

I remember watching on the news, the footage of the american troops on the oil fields trying to put out fires.   Spouting flame from the ground going a mile high into the air under high pressure and extreme heat.   Yeah.   Very rarely did I see footage of a soldier saving civilians in those countries. I did happen, but now that I think back on it, it was usually when the world started to question the american involvement.  That would be when we would see footage of soldiers carrying injured children from rubble to get medical attention (allegedly).

Now here we are almost 40 years later, those middle eastern countries are in no better shape then when I was a kid.   New groups have sprung up and of course the media and the western governments condemn their actions and outrage follows from civilians who look no further than the 2 minute news story on their tv screens or the newspaper column.

This is where i have issues.   We have a means at our disposal that gives us more information, more quickly than the news media can put out.  The Internet.

I myself use this as a source.   Like all sources, it is not always reliable and sometimes it can be dead on reliable.

I look at all sides of the picture and come to my own conclusions, and I don’t assume the view that is portrayed my mainstream media.   Why?  They simply don’t check sources anymore.

I look at the videos and blogs from the people of those countries, the videos and blogs of the soldiers themselves.

Did you know there is a huge amount of videos of US soldiers who are condemning what is being done and they also testify on camera that they are being ordered to kill, rape and beat innocent civilians in those countries?   They get awarded by their superiors for their “first kills”.     One horrific story, a squad, raped a teenage girl, and forced her father to watch and then they set them on fire.   In that particular video, he showed footage from the building where it was done and you could see the blackened cement where the fire burned the bodies.

Those are just some tiny examples of what war is.  So imagine when you live in a country that is constantly bombarded by the Americans, from afar.  Whole families are killed by gunfire in an entire apartment complex, because the Americans want to kill 1 person in that building.

Generations have lived in those conditions.  Over and over and over again.  Not one person hasn’t had a person killed by either side.

Imagine if that was your world.  Unfortunately I have a vivid imagination and can see this all to well.

Out of that anger, then springs up groups that want to take their homes back, their lands, and their country and bring peace.   So these militant groups spring up and organize and fight back.   Some are military trained some aren’t.  That doesn’t matter.  It’s the goal.  The goal to get their lands back and stop the killing from foreign troops.   They use any means at their disposal, because they are outnumbered, and outgunned.  They are desperate and want their country back and to know what peace is, because they simply never have seen peace.   Never lived in a place where they didn’t have to fear getting shot when leaving their home, or being able to go to sleep at night wondering if they would wake up at sunrise or die by a midnight bombing of their home.

That constant barrage of fear will spring hatred.  That hatred becomes driving force in many militant groups and religion will even bring that to the forefront.

So I do understand why and how these groups spring up.   I do also know where the blame lies.  It really isn’t with the religion or with militant groups.   They are fighting for their lives.

You have to look back in history to see what is happening and to the cause   And it all started with the invasions by the american forces.    If the american and Canadian troops left those areas, then peace eventually would come back to those countries.   And eventually the anger would fade.

http://news.nationalpost.com/2014/12/07/john-maguire-an-isis-fighter-from-ottawa-appears-on-video-warning-canada-of-attacks-where-it-hurts-you-the-most/